Hello fellow “everyday, unassuming guru” tribe members. Ah the sweet ecstasy in finding that life is always here to support me by sending me another guru to offer a guiding insight whenever I am willing to receive one. Have you noticed that? Kenya presents a great opportunity for us to look at a very important matter (see below)
Hi Mr. White
I really love your short clips of advice. I need some help with something. Maybe you have an ordinary guru insight that you could give me? What do you mean when you say that if I am angry I should do nothing to try to change it? I wrestle with anger a lot. When I get angry I try to stop being angry, but that makes it worse for me.
I thank you very, very much, love, Kenya
When anger takes you over, Kenya, you should do nothing to stop it. What you resist most certainly shall persist. Don’t get angry with your anger, for heaven’s sake. That doubles the anger’s intensity. Don’t deny your anger. That is a form of resisting it. That gives it free reign in your personality.
To do nothing is to do nothing about it – just observe it. Just be with it. Do you know why? Hold on, here it comes. You cannot run away from anger because you are trying to run away from yourself when you are angry (you are trying to run away from, “I AM angry”), and you cannot run away from yourself (your identity). When you are angry there is no “you” that is apart from the angry you – not in that moment anyways. Just as you cannot run away from your arm when you bang it and it is sore – you cannot run away from that psychological part of you (your anger) when you’ve declared yourself to be that.
Once you see that it is impossible to run away from “the angry you,” something miraculous happens. A new sense of self is available. You now have the choice to be someone else. You are not dealing with the anger specifically, you are dealing with your identity. You now have the opportunity to choose to be, “I AM patient and I AM openminded” rather than “I AM angry and insistent.”
Try it you’ll like it.
Blessings to you, Kenya, Rob
You always have a choice of “who you are being,” Your identity is not carved in stone. Pay more attention to the “I AM” that you are presenting to the world, and less attention to your mood. You will be shocked at how that can affect your mood!
Blessings & love to all of you, Rob
PS You deceive yourself with your self-descriptions when you insist such a thing as, “I AM angry” That assures you will be angry longer than necessary. Pay attention to what you pay attention to when you say, “I AM ….”