I often ask you, after offering a life-lesson, to ask yourself, “What’s this got to do with me?” However, I never warned you that if you ask, “What’s this got to do with me?” about everything, you may just be a tad bit self-absorbed. Maura inquires into this matter (see below).
I loved your book, “And Then I Met Margaret.” Wow, did I learn a lot about myself. One problem I may have is that my friends tell me I am completely self-absorbed. I’m not even sure if I know what that really means or if that can be helpful or harmful to me. Could you give me your thoughts on this?
Thank you very much, Maura
Well hello Maura,
When someone is completely self-absorbed, they always ask, “What’s this got to do with me” even when it’s not necessary to ask that. For example, if someone said they loved granny apples, you’d feel compelled to give your opinion about granny apples or pumpkin pie, or whatever it may be. Why not just let the person have his or her point of view without chiming in. Do you always chime in?
The problem with being completely self-absorbed is that you don’t see that there are other ways of going through life beyond your point of view. Self-absorption leaves no room for expansion. Evolution is about expansion.
I hope that helps you with your inquiry, Maura.
Blessing to you, Rob
Be aware of your small decisions. Do you always get the same kind of bottled water, or order the same cup of coffee? Do you always have the same conversations about the weather or what’s going on at work? Are you willing to take risks with the little things you do, or do you stick to the same routine? All of that can tell you a lot about how self-absorbed you are, and how exciting or dull your future may be.
Blessings & love to all of you, Rob
Ps Is it possible for your conversations to flow smoothly if others disagree with you? Or does the “to and fro” get choppy? Hmmm. What can you learn from that?