Hello my “ordinary guru” seeking friends. Life is never grim and gruff and inhospitable, unless we invite it to be that way. It all begins with you, when it comes to your reality. What thou see-est out there thou be-est on the inside. Often it is an unassuming guru that points that out to you. Karen presents an interesting question (see below)
When we get involved in a new romantic relationship, why does it get so complicated soon afterwards? I notice that happens a lot with my friends, and with me. Do you have any thoughts on that? Maybe it’s out of your range, but I thought I’d ask.
Thank you if you respond to me, Karen M.
Hi Karen M,
When we meet someone new, and want to get their attention – unfortunately most of us go into an act. By that I mean that we try to convince that person to believe we are “the way we assume they want us to be.” That’s a mouthful. You may want to read that again, slowly.
So, the biggest problem with a new relationship where we want to impress the other person, is that we try to fit what we think is their idea of the perfect person for them; we try to be the perfect woman for him, or the perfect man for her. Big problem ensues! If they fall for it, then we’re screwed. Why’s that? Because if they like our act, we realize that they don’t really like us for who we truly are. What they like is the “I AM” that we have presented ourselves to be in order to get their attention. Now, what are we to do?
So, Karen, that is one big reason that romantic relationships can get so complicated. Sometimes we can even end up resenting that person for falling in love with who we are pretending to be, like it’s their fault. WOW! What a tangled web we have begun to weave. Another layer of complication to deal with.
Blessing to you Karen, Rob
Dares’t you present yourself to the world, just as you are – warts and all? Children dare until they are taught to “behave” as the world wants them to be. In that case, to “behave” is to “enslave.” Let that no longer happen to you.
Love and blessings to all of you, Rob
PS Do not seek the image of what it means to be the perfect man or perfect woman – seek to be yourself only … always!