Good Monday morning to all of you “ordinary guru seeking” community members. Have you ever given much thought to how much credence you give to your past? Bonne makes a great inquiry (see below)
Perhaps you can give me some “ordinary guru’ advice. My best friend promised me she would not tell my old boyfriend that I went out with someone else while he was away last summer. I cannot get over the fact that she violated my trust in her. Yet, I am not at all interested in my old boyfriend anymore. What’s my problem? Other than that, she is a great friend and has always proven to be trustworthy.
What do you think about this?
Thank you, Bonnie B
Hi Bonnie B
Might I remind you of the story of the two monks who belonged to an order that prohibited them from even touching a woman. One day they were walking in the woods and came across a young damsel in distress. She wanted to cross the river but was afraid the current would knock her over and drag her downstream.
The older monk offered to carry her across, and proceeded to do just that when she eagerly agreed. After setting her down on the other side, the younger monk ranted on and on about how his friend (the older monk) had broken a sacred vow. Finally, the older monk said, “My dear friend, I left her on this side of the river and have forgotten about the whole incident. You are still carrying on because you are still carrying her in your mind.”
You cannot let go of the fact that your friend violated your trust because you keep playing the scene again and again in your mind, Bonnie. It happened only once. You are acting like it happened a thousand times because you’ve played the scene a thousand times. You say your friend has proven to be trustworthy other than for this one incident. Perhaps it’s time to let this one incident go.
Blessings to you, Rob
What scene do you play on your mental screen a thousand times over? Something that happened in your past that you just cannot seem to stop thinking about? Is it time to let it go. It’s a worn out video. You’re not free to be all you’re here to be when you drive down the highway of life always looking in the rear view mirror.
Blessings and Love to all of you, Rob
PS Anyone who feels imprisoned by life is imprisoned by their past.