My goodness, and here we are again with a fresh new week upon us. Many an “ordinary guru” is looking to help you. Keep your antennae up by being open minded; you won’t regret it. Jonathan brings up a topic that many folks feel puzzled about. Let’s look
Hi Mr White
I like your Zen style of writing. Here’s a dilemma that plagues me. What do you think? My problem is that I feel that I can only be happy if I get what I want. I feel frustrated if I don’t get what I want, and no matter how hard I work at letting go of the frustration, I seem to fall short. One thing for sure is that when I’m feeling frustrated I’m not feeling happy. I’m forty and am getting disappointed with life. Any advice?
Thank you for considering my problem, Jonathan
My first question to you is this: “How many times in your forty years of living have you received what you worked hard to receive?” I imagine if you were to be honest about that, you’d find that you often received what you worked hard to receive, Jonathan. There’s no way that you have managed to get to age forty without a lot of successes under your belt.
So now with that handled, might I ask you, “Were you happy after each of those successes?” And if you did feel happy, how long did the experience of happiness last? Ten weeks? Ten days? Ten hours? Ten minutes? It seems that you are searching for happiness in all the wrong places. You are pursuing happiness, Jonathan. That’s not how you get it. You express happiness. Happiness is what you naturally are, and so it’s what you naturally express if you don’t attach a lot of rules to it – watch a small child at play.
I have a hunch that you compare your life with other’s lives, and if you cannot match their level of success then you have doomed yourself to frustration. That is where the frustration comes in; that’s my hunch. Who does that to you when you do that, Jonathan?
“Happiness” – that’s a big one. The tip for the day is this: “you cannot GET happy; you can only BE happy.” And if that is to BE – it is up to THEE!
Blessings & love, Rob
PS You’ve got to design happiness into your daily activity; don’t plan for it to happen sometime out there in the future