Hello fellow “ordinary guru seekers.” I want to take a moment to appreciate all of you. I learn a lot from you. Thank you for being my guru with your many responses and questions. Tom is an inquirer, just like you and me; just looking for answers so he can live productively and happily. (See below)
Hi Mr. White
My priest is my guru. He tells me that I have to forgive others when they say things I don’t like. I try to forgive, but sometimes I don’t know how. Do you any ideas about that?
Thank you, Tom
Have you heard the tale of the two monks who were walking in the woods and came upon a wide stream of water where a lady was standing, looking perplexed. It seems she did not want to get her shoes and slacks wet. The elder of the two monks asked her if she needed help. She said, “Yes,” so he picked her up, carried her across, and placed her safely on the other side. She thanked him profusely before walking on.
As the two monks continued their walk, the younger monk became very quiet. After twenty minutes had passed the elder monk asked what the problem was. “You picked up that woman,” said the young monk, “We took a vow not to ever touch a woman. You should not have done that.”
The elder monk paused for a moment, and then said, “I left her back at the stream after I put her down, but you, my friend, are still carrying her.”
Just as the younger monk was stuck with his attitude, you are carrying your grudges with you, Tom. Put them down. Do it for your sake. When you hold a grudge against someone who has caused you some sort of harm, it is you that is carrying the load. The Art of For-Giving is to “GIVE up your begrudging point of view FOR something fresh and new. That’s when you are free of the enemy emotion you’re carrying.
Just be with this for a bit, Tom. It will sink in and make perfect sense.
Are you truly willing to For-Give (to GIVE up your begrudging point of view about someone FOR something fresh and new?) That’s a big one, but remember – what you condemn, condemns you. That means your condemning feeling is raising havoc in your nervous system; you cannot afford to do that, can you?
Blessings and Love, Rob
PS Peace is a state of psychic understanding. For-Giveness is the key that sets you free from psychological havoc so that you might understand how to get to peace.