Hey fellow “ordinary guru” seekers, are you learning about yourself? Our task as human beings is to live from our true center of being, but oftentimes that can be a real task. Tony offers a great opportunity for all of us to open our eyes and see the “ME” that we are projecting outwardly. Let’s take a look.
I have a couple ordinary gurus in my life, but sometimes they disappoint me. My wife and my best friend are two of my unassuming gurus, but sometimes they fall short with their insights about me.
My wife tells me that I can be passive aggressive at times, and my best friend agrees with her. I don’t agree. I think they both miss the mark with this one. How do I convince them that they are wrong? Or how do I relax so I can notice that they are right?
When your friend and your wife say that you are being passive aggressive, do you pause to observe yourself with the intention of seeing yourself as you are in that moment? In order to do that you must stop insisting that you are as you imagine yourself to be. Most often it is nothing more than one’s own conditioned mind that stands in the way when it comes to noticing how one is behaving, Tony.
The best way to notice whether you are being passive aggressive is to get sick and tired of pretending you’re not passive aggressive, and then notice what comes out of you. Just notice how you behave next. Self-freedom comes when you allow yourself to be whatever it is that shows up for you, Tony. Notice if passive aggressiveness is carrying you through the moment or not. By just being with whatever shows up, you can learn how to be without it. But by denying what shows up, you will never rid yourself of it. I know this may sound a little Zen, Tony, but it’s true. That which you resist will persist. Try it; see what comes of it.
Blessings Tony … Rob
What can we learn from this? One thing we can learn is that when we avoid conscious involvement with our programmed behavior patterns we guarantee that those patterns will continue to dominate us. Programmed behavior is part of the mechanical you. However, when you awaken to that programming and let it run its course consciously – it runs out of steam and you are free.
Have you dared to ask, “What possibly could this have to do with me?”
Blessings and Love, Rob
PS Make every one of your mechanical reactions a source of self-understanding, and self-advancement toward freedom will be your reward