Hello fellow “everyday, ordinary, unassuming guru” seekers; and how goes the search for you? In your enthusiasm to find these marvelous contributions to your life, be wise. Don’t force that position onto someone who isn’t one. Cassandra makes an important discovery (see below).
Hi Mr White
I’m angry with my ordinary Guru, Karen. She’s my best friend and I trust her. We promised to be each other’s ordinary gurus. The problem is that when I share something personal about myself with her she ends up using it against me later when we get into some petty argument about something. I don’t know what to do. What do you think?
Thank you, Cassandra
The first thing I think is that your friend is not a guru for you if she uses what you share with her as ammunition to fire back at you at some later time. It seems that her spirit is not one of compassion, generosity, kindness or love, but rather of resentment or anger. The spirit of resentment and anger is a signal that you are NOT having an everyday, ordinary, unassuming guru experience with her.
I suggest you calmly refrain from sharing your intimacies with her until you two can set up a more trusting relationship. It is not wise to discuss your personal matters with someone of that attitude; it will only come back to bite you. Gurus never try to drain your energy by bringing up something that is going to bother you with the intention of bothering you. Short cuts will drive you nuts; gurus will come; don’t insist your friend is one. Remember that when on your “ordinary guru” seeking ventures, okay?
Whenever you think you’re having an ordinary guru experience, pause to ask yourself, “Does this person show any intention of hurting me in the slightest way?” If the answer is “Nay” then you are on your way to a great insight (not a big fight).
Blessings & Love, Rob
PS – All is well when all is understood; seek to understand yourself and life more, and unassuming gurus will come to help you with that.