Hello fellow “ordinary guru seekers.” I am getting a lot of email asking me to be the ordinary guru. I love doing this, AND I would love for you to send me stories of ordinary gurus that have passed your way and taught you a thing or two. Meanwhile, Karen offers a great opportunity to look at the Golden Rule rightly. Let’s take a peek.
My husband loves me but he doesn’t understand me. He thinks he’s practicing the Golden Rule by doing unto me what he would have done unto him, but I don’t want what he wants, so it causes us problems. Will you be my ordinary guru and tell me what’s missing here.
By the way, I loved your book, And Then I Met Margaret. I left my impression on Amazon, and noticed many of the reviews are similar to mine. That book helped me see things about myself that I had never suspected.
Thank you, Karen
Great topic you introduce here. Thank you for that. So let’s look at the Golden Rule. To truly practice that rule one must set his (or her) beliefs aside and look at others through their eyes. To do this requires being an attentive listener and an objective observer. Notice what the other person values, what brings the other person joy. Don’t project your needs and desires on them; pay attention to them.
You are separating yourself from the rat pack when you stop insisting others should be like you. It is simply a wise act to notice when you’re insisting someone be part of your pack. Where’s the freedom you’re offering them? If you are truly supporting someone you must be willing to help him or her achieve her dreams, not your dreams if you were that person. You are not that person.
Have you ever heard of the Law of Reciprocity, Karen? Basically it says that what you give to others will return to you multiplied. Give others what they need to feel safe or loved or cared for, and you will receive precisely what you need to feel that way with them. For example – buy your wife ballet tickets and she will buy you baseball tickets. And both of you feel loved. Buy your wife baseball tickets because you are “doing unto her what you would have her do unto you,” and she will buy you ballet tickets. How’d that work out? Yes, you both got to go to what you wanted to see, but not in the right mood, not with an attitude of receptivity. I hope this helps you understand the Golden Rule a little better, Karen.
Blessings to you, Rob
Have you been applying the Golden Rule rightly?
Have you been walking in the moccasins of others
And then giving them what they would love to receive from you?
(not what you would love to receive from them)
Life is a mirror.
It never misses
It always reflects back to you what you are putting out there.
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Blessings and Love, Rob
Question: Why does life give me so many blessings?
Answer: Because you are always blessing life.
Question: Why does life deal me so many blows?