It’s great sharing stories of gurus that have crossed my path with all of you “everyday, ordinary guru seekers.” And I love when you share one of yours guru experiences with all of us. This one is from Karen, it’s short and perfect!
I think I have an everyday guru story to share with you. If it’s not what you mean by an unassuming guru experience, I apologize.
There is an older man who bags groceries at the local grocery story. He is very friendly and is always offering advice on the littlest things. About a month ago, the woman checking out in front of me was telling him about how her sister drains her of her energy by complaining all of the time. Tim asked her what she got from it. The woman said that she didn’t get anything from it, but she loved to be with her sister other than that. He told her that they are sisters and they need each other, but she didn’t need her sisters constant complaining habit, and she should just explain that to her sister.
That was it. I couldn’t get that advice out of my mind. When I got home that afternoon my daughter had just come from school, and immediately began complaining about her math teacher at school and her friend who never invites her to sleepover parties and her brother who demands that she watch the tv show he wants to watch. I told my daughter that she is my daughter and I love her and we need each other for so many reason good reasons, but I didn’t need her continual whining and complaining. My daughter looked at me startled, and then we both began to laugh really hard. That was a month ago, and she rarely complains like she used to when she’s around me. Also, I feel our relationship is better than ever.
Was Tim a guru who taught me a lesson even though he wasn’t talking to me?
WOW, I love that Karen!
While finishing your shopping you observed something very interesting. You asked yourself, “What’s this lesson have to do with me?” That made Tim’s lesson very appropriate for you to learn. In that moment, Tim was talking to you. Furthermore, very quickly thereafter you knew exactly what it had to do with you. You didn’t get defensive when you used the lesson while relating to your daughter, but rather you extended an invitation to create a great mother / daughter relationship in the moment without getting uptight about her complaining.
SEEK TRUTH, NOT HAPPINESS; THEN SEE HOW EASY HAPPINESS BECOMES AVAILABLE TO YOU. That is the great lesson this ordinary guru offered you, Karen, and it is the truth that helped you create a better relationship with your daughter. You sought to speak the truth without any condemnation, and look what happened – happiness descended upon both your daughter and you.
Thank you, that’s a perfect “guru story.”
Blessings to you, Karen, and to all of you, Rob
PS – Never give your life away to the bad habits of others, it is never required of you. Furthermore, it is a sure-fire way to miss out on happiness.