Hello members of the “ordinary, everyday guru search” community.
Right now I am sitting in the dark due to an electrical outage at my beach home in California (Severe storms). I cannot access the internet, so I am writing this blog from the light of my heart and memory of mind.
I am on a journey to prove to myself (and anyone listening), that there are myriad unassuming gurus passing by every day, and if I am aware of them, there are many pearls of wisdom to be found. Pearls that will make my life richer.
So many folks I meet make it clear to me that the best way to end the negative consequences of a bad habit is to stop the bad habit. Yet, most of those folks also make it clear to me that they don’t know how to do that – they don’t know how to stop it.
Why is that?
Real power has nothing to do with “agreeing” that the bad habit must be stopped. Real power has to do with personal trueness to the mission of stopping the bad habit. Real power comes with doing what’s necessary to stop overeating or stop drinking or to stop smoking or to stop getting so angry. There is no doubt that it can be scary and intimidating at first, but later the effort becomes calming and effortless.
So what’s it take to access this real power?
What comes between a bad habit and you is the authentic you.
You weren’t born with that habit.
The habit is not an original part of you.
The habit is something that you’ve claimed to be part of you.
Don’t let your bad habits define you.
If you do not know who you are – simply be with the inquiry and the light of insight will come.
What stops a habit dead in its tracks is when someone identifies with something that contrasts the habit. When someone identifies with being healthy, it is much easier to quit smoking or overeating.
I met a young woman at Starbucks the other day. She explained to me that she was fifty pounds heavier just a year ago. She is now slim and fit. I asked her how she lost the weight. She told me that she used to look in the mirror every day and say, “I’m fat,” and it became a self-fulfilling prophecy. Before she knew it, she wasn’t just 20 lbs overweight, she was 40 lbs, then 50 lbs overweight.
I asked her how she lost the weight. She said, she fell in love, and one day her boyfriend said, “You’re not fat; you’re just a slim gal with extra pounds you’re carrying around.” She said that struck her deep. She decided to confirm her boyfriends statement by personally experiencing it. And she began by looking in the mirror every morning and saying, “I am slim and fit and I love that about me.”
Voila! That was it. After affirming that new fact every morning for a month until it felt real, she added some self-discipline to her pledge and now she looks in the delighted with what she sees.
That young lady taught me a great lesson about the power of declaring, “I AM” and following up with action. It’s the “I AM” that actually carries the clout. If you want to know what you need to do to personally drop a bad habit, begin by claiming yourself to BE that which is opposite the habit. Claim it til you feel it. From that claim will come insights that will supply the perfect answers for you.
Please ask, “What does this have to do with me?” What habit might you rid yourself of if you took on a new identity … if you claimed yourself to BE just the opposite of what the habit has done to you?
Thank you Karen for being an unassuming guru who passed my way. We are all offspring of Infinite Intelligence. There is not one person out there that hasn’t something to teach me. Maybe you will send me an email and share a guru story that I may post for you?
Blessings and love to all of you, Rob
PS – To break a habit that you demonstrate in the outer world of physicality – begin by turning within. Who do you have to “BE” in order to leave that habit in the dust?