Let’s continue our conversation about gurus. Everyday, ordinary, unassuming gurus can come in many shapes and forms. And sometimes we don’t get the lesson they offer for years to come.
I was fifteen, working with my grandfather removing large stones from his back yard. He wanted the stones removed because he was planning a vegetable garden in that spot.
After carrying a large stone ten yards to the edge of the lot, my grandfather said, “It’s amazing how many years I thought of growing a vegetable garden back here, but I never did anything about it. It’s like the stones had convinced me that they had a right to stay right where they sat.”
As we lugged another stone out of his designated “vegetable garden area,” he stood tall, tugged at his back and said, “Well, for now on I’m going to decide where the stones sit and where they don’t sit.”
After about two hours of removing the large stones, my grandfather asked me, “What have the stones taught you?” I shrugged. I had no response.
It was in my late twenties – some decade and a half later – that I looked back at that mental scene in my memory and thought, “I have learned something from the stones. They have taught me that we, human beings, do not change our way of seeing things until we are willing to study our reality with an eye on seeing things differently. But until then, we’ll allow even the sticks and stones in our lives to decide what we should and shouldn’t do.”
My grandfather walked by those stones for years, complaining that if they weren’t there he could plant a great vegetable garden. Somehow the stones had convinced him of their right to sit there. He never thought that perhaps he was his own problem by refusing to see things differently.
How many times have you looked at something and said, “That’s just the way it is”? Did you ever give it thought that if you saw it differently then perhaps the way it is would no longer be the case? What object, out there in the world, has convinced you that there is nothing you can do to change things?
Is it possible that you cause your own problems by not knowing the difference between mechanical thinking and creative imagining?
If I’d not learned the lesson the gurus (large stones) offered me, I’d never have evolved from teaching school to becoming a bi-coastal real estate developer to big city restaurateur to best selling book author. Nothing is the way it is until we decide it is that way.
Wow! That’s a lot of power we wield.
What’s this got to do with you? Take a moment. Think about it. You might be surprised at what you come to realize. Be honest; notice what you consistently think and the excuses you make. If you explore yourself like that – you will be delightfully startled to see how you can change your future so it’s as you want it to be.
Blessings and Love to you, Rob White
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