Learn to be a mind-detective; detect your words and feelings and actions; listen to your self-talk. If you take the time to pay attention, that one practice will be very revealing. Notice your thought-habits; those thoughts that you automatically repeat to yourself again and again. Also, take the time to notice your insights and revelations; those remarkable moments when you are able to see things differently than your usual point of view. Start doing something right for yourself – do this practice a few times a day for the next week or so, and you’ll quickly know what it means to be in control.