It is an absolute delight to think and act for yourself, and it’s never wrong to think you’re right to want to improve your life.
It’s not the strongest or most intelligent that live happy, productive lives; it’s those who learn to read the gauges on the dashboard of their mind, and focus on their strengths and talents rather than on their supposed shortcomings.
Indeed, you were innocent and naïve when you were exposed to scolding NO’s whenever you decided to explore. The problem is that you then went on to assume things about yourself that weren’t true. Things that had you believe, “There’s something wrong with me.” It would have been great if someone could have warned you that the world is filled with enough scolding NO’s to drive a person crazy, but you don’t have to listen; you don’t have to go there.
Well, it’s better late than never. Hear the great news – what it’s important to see is that you assumed an identity that includes thoughts of being flawed. It’s not you, but the identity that’s flawed. Furthermore, that identity has no life without your cooperation.
The next time you catch yourself listening to a howling NO from your past, that has you feeling inadequate or insecure – know that you’re being tricked into reacting from old conditioned reactions that aren’t demonstrating the truth about you. Your job is to interrupt that pattern before you react. You do that by consciously choosing to see yourself differently. That very awareness will help you to overcome false constraints that you’ve imposed upon yourself.
There is nothing more damaging than self-trickery, and nothing more empowering than self-awareness. Use that fact wisely.
I remember an old movie where novice campers, during their first night in the wilderness, were frightened by wolves that howled for hours. The next morning a seasoned camper happened by and gave them a flare-gun. He explained that if they shot a flare in the air, the howling wolves would be exposed and they’d run off. The wolves returned the following night and began howling. The campers shot a flare into the air, and the wolves fled, in fear of the light. The night was peaceful.
Here is such a flare that you can use to expose howling No’s that make you feel low: the next time the echo of an old NO projects a discouraging scene on your mental screen, just consider it a mental rental that’s a poor choice to watch. See it as nothing more than an old psychological drama that offers no value. Return it to the archives from whence it came and pledge not to rent it again.
Learn to seek freedom from echoes of old NO’s – make liberation from self-imposed limitations your ultimate goal. You cannot do this without first separating your false concepts of self from your true nature, and then pledging your allegiance to your true nature. There are always “two of you” available: the false self and the authentic you. Learn to observe your two selves with the intention of making a declaration of independence from your assumed identity. As you become adept at it, you find yourself left with your original nature with it’s many hidden talents and inner strengths.
May I repeat again that it’s an absolute delight to think and act for yourself, and it’s never wrong to think you’re right to want to improve your life. An important way to begin is to notice how you’ve been conditioned to cave in when a life-challenge calls you out. Don’t buy it. Shoot up a flare. There is no fright in the light.