Student: How can I persuade others so I have power with them in my life?
Teacher: You persuade those that talk the same language as you; you persuade those who identify with you through your gestures and your attitude and your values. So in fact, you are able to persuade those who are able to persuade you because you think and act in similar manners. You have power with those that you have things in common with, and thus they have power with you.
Student: So it’s not a one-way street?
Teacher: Heavens no. Persuading others is not a selfish endeavor, it’s a matter of having the same self-interests. You cannot push their buttons unless they can push your buttons. There is no other way, unless you carry a big stick. And that’s not persuading others, that’s forcing them.