Teacher: You come to me asking for the secret to making others happy?
Student: Yes, I want to make a difference in the world; I want to make people I meet happy.
Teacher: I can’t help you with that. You can’t make others happy no matter what you do.
Student: I notice others are happier when around some people than when around me. I notice I feel happier when I’m around you.
Teacher: When you are being “naturally you,” you are happiest always. And then, when others are with you, it feels natural for them to be themselves, and they feel happy.
Student: Can you teach me that?
Teacher: What is there to teach? Just drop the act. Just speak from your heart when with others. Let go of your need to make others happy and let your authentic nature flow. From that springs forth your true vitality and joy, you’ll feel happy. This happiness will radiate outwardly, which frees everyone around you up to be themselves. And the whole lot of you will be dancing around the room full of life and laughter. I suggest you observe one of the greatest teachers of happiness there is – a small child or a puppy. Watch the reaction they get from others.
Student: Thank you. As I mentioned earlier, I came to you for advice because I feel happy in your presence. Now I know why. You are authentic, and natural and easy, always, in your responses and action. That frees me up to be myself, and I inevitably leave you feeling joyful and happy.
Teacher: When you are comfortable in your own skin, it creates space to allow others to feel comfortable in their skin; everyone wins.