When you’re feeling anxious, there’s a perfect way to stop it.
Step 1: The moment you begin feeling uneasy or nervous, stop and acknowledge it: “I notice that I’m feeling anxious right now.”
Step 2: Stop right there. Say nothing else. Just notice it. Do not take the conversation any deeper. When you engage in extraneous inner conversation about it, you add energy to it. And the intellect wants to ramble on about “why” you’re feeling anxious. This always makes matters worse.
Step 3: When you make a point of remaining internally silent after acknowledging the feeling of anxiety, you allow it to flow through, which it will do, if you allow it to. There it goes – can you feel the sweet relief?
Step 4: Now, say to yourself, “That was like a rumbling thunderstorm rolling through. Just as rumbling thunder cannot harm me, neither can the rumble of anxiety.
You stop anxiety by becoming alert to how it works. It requires energy to gain intensity. Don’t deny that it exists, but don’t make a big deal of it. Acknowledge it to yourself, but don’t talk about it to others or engage in self-talk about it. As the mind quiets, anxiety loses energy.