My grandfather would often say to me, “I wish I didn’t always have to be so darn smart. If I wasn’t so smart, everyone wouldn’t come to me for answers.”
I wondered if we’d all like gramps as much as we liked him if he wasn’t so smart. So, I asked my mother, “Mom, if gramps wasn’t so smart, would we still like him as much as we do?” And my mother answered, “If your grandfather wasn’t that smart, you’d still like him a lot.”
Once my mom’s lesson penetrated my brain, I realized that she was pretty smart herself. She was teaching me that it’s strange how we will try to place a limit on how much we like someone if they lack a quality we like. But, the truth is that we like people because of the connection we make with them; not because they come with a list of qualities we admire.
I guess I can’t argue with that.