“Stop your whining, Bobby, you’re going to give yourself a headache.” That’s what my grandmother would say to me when I got moody and started complaining about everything in my life.
I didn’t realize the wisdom in my grandmother’s statement until I understood the statement, “If I am to be what I want to be then I must let go of who I am.” Of course! That makes complete sense. If I’m to be the winner that I want to be, then I must let go of the “whiney me.”
Certainly, I cannot expect to win if I continue to nourish a whining attitude. That attitude is a thief in the night that steals my optimism, loots me of my enthusiasm, and drains me of my sticktuitive passion. Plain and simple: it’s a thief!
For years, I perpetually kept “the whiner” alive in me in spite of the fact that it restricted me from being all that I wanted to be and from doing all of the things that I wanted to do.
Question: What did I do to experience the passover from the old to the new me?
Answer: I had to stop identifying with my grumbling moods and stop focusing my attention on all those things that bothered me.
Question: How’d I do that? How’d I experience the Passover?
Answer: I spent five minutes every morning imagining others seeing me as they’d see me if I actually dared to be the optimistic winner that I wanted to be. And then, I took time to start acting as though it was already so – acting as though I already was an optimistic winner.
It took time to settle into this new attitude of mind, but within a month things were changing for me. It became easier and easier for me to experience in imagination what I wanted to experience in reality. And the easier it got the easier it was for me to be the optimistic winner that I wanted to be. Things started poppin! Life is good 🙂