Everyone’s afraid of something. We have to be. If we weren’t afraid of anything, then we’d step into the road without looking both ways; we’d drink poison just to see what it tastes like; we’d challenge a silver back gorilla to a wrestling match.
If everyone’s afraid of something, then what’s it mean to be fearless? Fearlessness isn’t the absence of fear, it’s the willingness to act in the face of fear. It’s willing to do whatever it takes to succeed, in the face of “fear of failing.” It’s looking at the facts and knowing that one can break the back of any fact if the matter is approached intelligently.
Fact: Man cannot fly. How’d we put Neil Armstrong on the moon?
Fact: Man is not built to run a mile in four minutes. Who forgot to tell Roger Bannister that?
When you accept fear as part of the game of winning in life, then the trembling disappears. When the trembling disappears, you still see things that are wrong in your world, but you stop reacting wrongly to them. When you stop reacting wrongly, you’re free to look deeply into the matter. Look deep enough, and you begin to see the basic cause of your problems is overreacting. Most of your fears are a consequence of the lies that you hold as true about you:
(1) I’m not smart enough.
(2) I was born into the wrong environment.
(3) I’m guilty of sinning, and am unworthy of winning.
(4) Some people are creative; I’m not.
(5) Your turn __________________________________ ?
An everyday, ordinary, unassuming guru helped to me to see how ridiculous I can be when I let a fear get the best of me. I entered an underground parking garage without noticing the sign that said, for small vehicles only. Sure enough, I heard the top of my Range Rover scraping on a pipe. I stopped, got out, assessed the problem, and fearfully said, “Oh great. Now I’m going to do real damage to my car if I try to move it.”
A teenage boy happened to be walking by. He assessed the situation just as I did, but he had no fearful concerns about doing further damage to the car (since it wasn’t his). In his calm frame of mind, he came up with a perfect solution. “Let some of the air out of your two front tires. You only need to drop the height of the front of the car by 1/8th of an inch to clear the pipe and back out.”
Genius! I never thought of that. I was too upset to be creative. It worked. The scrape was minimal, and there was a gas station across the street with an air pump.
What this unassuming guru taught me was simple: First, indeed, I must become aware of what’s wrong, but then I must become aware of wrong answers that are coming from me because I’ve taken on a wrong attitude out of fear. And finally, with these two discoveries – I’m able to make right corrections, or attract the right and perfect unassuming guru to help me.
Life becomes a great adventure when we’re able to deal with our fears effectively. And life becomes an even greater adventure when we’re willing to open to our hearts and minds to ordinary, everyday, unassuming gurus who drop by to help us see things differently.
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