It wasn’t but a month ago when I met an old friend for coffee at Starbucks. He was in a great mood and said, “Let’s start a business together. With my intelligence and your money, we can make a fortune.” I asked if he thought that might be a tad intrusive – him imposing his brain on my money. He said, “Not at all. I’ve got some very intelligent ideas brewing in my head.” I countered with this. “Okay, I’ll agree, but only if you agree that my role is to criticize every intelligent idea that you come up with, and your job is to come up with an even more intelligent idea.” We both had a hearty laugh over the insanity of the moment.
What isn’t funny about life is that there are folks who really believe it’s their job to use their brain to make decisions for everyone else. If it turns out good, they take full credit. However, if it turns out bad, they’re quick to blame the other guy for blowing the plan.
So, here are five tips that will help you stop getting lured in and dragged down by others who think they know what’s best for you. These tips help you develop what you want most: a feeling of high self-esteem, which is a quality of spiritual maturity.
Don’t Get Dragged Down Tip # 4: Never Be Mechanically Obedient In Order To Get Approval
When someone tries to make you feel guilty – never, never, never be mechanically obedient in order to get his approval. The way to inner peace – another quality of spiritual maturity – is to practice being pleasantly alone with yourself, no matter what is said to make you feel guilty. Here’s a fact worth pondering: any comment that does not lift you higher is lifeless. Choose life by doing something right for yourself. Be correction minded, not self-flagellating.
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