“How can I break free of my ‘poor me’ attitude?” Steve asked. He wanted me to coach him. He wanted a few tips on how to break free of the woeful thinking that he was caught in. He said he was doing a lot of whining and complaining lately.
I explained to Steve that one tip practiced to perfection can lift him out of 1,000 WOES. I explained to him that the healthy thing to do is to stop hiding the truth about himself from himself. I went on to tell him that he’d been moody for months now, and whenever I asked about it, he’d deny it. Stop hiding the truth – now that’s a tip!
Steve actually got some sort of cheap thrill from stressing out. He gets a kick out of complaining and acting like a victim. When I brought this up, he agreed he was caught in that role, but he insisted he received no kick out of it. “Well then,” I said, “you fear the loss of your stress. Perhaps you think you have to pay penance for some past act of which you feel guilty?”
I went on to explain to Steve that if I had a yellow WOW pill, that would wipe the attitude of WOE out of his psychic system, I didn’t believe he’d take it. “Why wouldn’t you take it, Steve? Because you wouldn’t know what to do with yourself if you dropped the role of WOE.”
Steve grimaced, stared at me for thirty seconds, and then said, “Damn! You are absolutely right. My job is boring. My relationships are boring. My life is boring, and it’s all my fault. But rather than do anything to correct it, I’ve decided to whine and complain and play the ‘poor me’ roll.”
A breakthrough comes only when Steve stops the nonsense – when Steve takes responsibility for his job, his relationships, his life, and starts acting in ways that improves them. This became apparent as we continued to speak. Steve took my tip to heart and acted on it. The moment Steve stopped hiding the truth about himself from himself, he felt motivated to make corrections in all three areas of his life.
To stop hiding the truth required that Steve be honest with himself. When he was honest with himself, he could motivate himself. He no longer needed me, a Motivational Coach, to motivate him. One tip – that’s all it took: stop hiding the truth. Not three tips, not five tips, not seven tips. There’s incredible self-motivation available when we practice self-honesty. When you are honest with yourself, you receive insights that stimulate and activate those inspiring emotions that motivate you.
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