Here is an important tip that helped me thoroughly investigate my belief system and confront my own “60,000 No’s”:
It is possible to see how foolish I’ve been without getting angry with myself.
We’ve been taught to scold ourselves when we’ve acted foolishly. Scolding is supposed to alleviate the guilt. Scolding intensifies the guilt, which causes more problems.
Take a moment now, and promise yourself, “I am here to grow and nothing will stop my goal, especially not self-scolding.” When you scold yourself for past mistakes, you stir up a resentful voice that interferes with finding solutions. Now you’ve dug an even deeper hole.
You can soar as high as you want to soar, but to soar higher you must listen higher. To listen higher is to listen above scolding self-talk. How does it feel when you say, “I am here to grow and nothing will stop my goal”? The truth feels good. How does it feel when you say, “Damn it! I screwed up again. What the hell’s wrong with me?” Directionless anger destroys ambition.
When I stopped my self-scolding, I replaced bluff and fakery for self-command and rational action-plans. I felt feelings of personal power, not despair, surging through me.
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