“As long as you prefer the illusion of struggling, you’ll have to endure defeat,” I replied. Wow, that got her attention. I went on to tell her that it was time for her to call upon the Power of Reversal, and begin looking at her problem from a very different perspective. When she inquired how to do that, I told her that it requires returning back to her natural ambitious and enthusiastic nature. Watch a small child, if you forgot what that’s like.
Plotinous spoke of a man so covered with mud that his natural beauty could not be detected. That’s what we do with our abundance of emotional energy when we use it to wail out, “WOE is me!” The mud is the negative energy, and you wash it away by taking the time to see things differently.
The reason Karen spends her energy suffering with feelings of defeat is because she listens to the evening news and it teaches her to think about the wrong things – not enough jobs, not enough money, not enough time in a day to start your own business. The news media, which represents the world voice, had led Karen into a dark forest of scary conclusions. And, like all of us, she experiences what she repeatedly thinks.
I know of what I speak because I’ve experienced what Karen was experiencing. And then I squandered my emotional energy on trifles. I was an active member of the ‘Cawing Crows’ club, always finding one more thing to whine about and finding someone to whine to.
What turned it around for me? Awareness! I not only became aware of my abundance of emotional energy, I also became aware of how I squandered it foolishly.
Now let’s look at Diane. She had the Midas touch; everything she did turned to gold. Well, that’s how I saw it until I asked her the secret. Diane was the first person I met that had made seven figures in one year, owning her own business, the dry cleaning business. She owned several stores.
Diane let me in on her secret to success. She said that the entire ‘lack of money matter’ could be resolved by anyone who sincerely and persistently asks, “What am I not doing that I need to do in order to attract money to me?” She insisted that we all have a hidden talent hiding deep inside of us, but until we drop the foolish notions we hold about being limited, we cannot get to it. And that talent will make anyone a hefty profit when it is applied effectively in the world.
Diane said our talent was our ability to direct our emotional energy. And the key to success is to direct it toward what we want rather than using it to avoid what we don’t want. She concluded, “Too many folks focus on avoiding scarcity. Few folks focus on attaining prosperity.”
Well, I pondered her advice, and here are some questions and thoughts I began pondering:
- Why can’t I trust myself when it comes to making money? If I spend so much time worrying about losing it, then surely I don’t trust myself.
- How can I change those erroneous notions I hold about money being scarce and me being talentless? I must believe that because that’s what I experience.
- How can I accept the truth that I have what it takes as an inspiring fact? I have an abundance of emotional energy – passion, enthusiasm, confidence – why don’t I direct it effectively?
- How can I start identifying with success and stop worrying about painful competition? I spend too much time with other members of the ‘Cawing Crows’ club, it’s time to let my membership expire and join those in the winner’s circle.
Eventually I came upon a very valuable power, one that anyone can access if they want to – The Power of Refusal. When I began exercising this power, I began seeing disappointing circumstances differently. I used to think there was only one way to deal with disappointment – whine about it. Now I began looking deeply into the circumstance, insisting that it give me answers that would move me toward sweet victory. I now understood that seeing things differently also meant I must stop enduring the pain of defeat and awaken to the cause of the defeat – which usually could be found in me. I’d not put my whole heart and mind into the matter, and the results showed it.
Just understanding the Power of Refusal was like jumping off a runaway stagecoach. When I refused to accept my old, negative self-talk, a bright new world of opportunity opened to me. It was like lucky breaks were magically appearing before me. I began sensing something fresh and new was available if I was willing to let it in. And I was.
It was remarkable that I never noticed that my day went the way my thoughts went. Perhaps I’d been using the Power of Refusal all along, but I was using it to deny the truth. Now I use this power to deny the lies that insist I can’t succeed; deny those negative opinions of self-limit that set my abundance of emotion flowing in the wrong direction.
How may you apply this to your life? What event presented itself as a wonderful teacher, but you saw it as a tragedy? What life-lesson have you refused to learn because you’re too busy complaining rather than explaining to yourself what you need to do differently in order to succeed?
What is the point of having an abundance of emotional energy if we use it to swing back and forth with thoughts of gloom and doom? Life offers a bottomless reservoir of life-enhancing wisdom, but you must dip into the reservoir if you are to experience the world as you dream it can be.