Listen to the audio companion of “YES-Shouts Have No Clout!” Did you give up your soul to take on a roll that is less than your Authentic Self? Rob takes the conversation deeeper on WROAR.
As I said on last evenings WROAR blog talk-show broadcast: YES-Shouts have no clout when spoken from an attitude of WOE.
Shouting “YES” with a positive affirmation does not guarantee that the Law of Attraction will go into action as you would like it to.
When I shout “YES” with an attitude of WOE, I find it impossible to achieve my goal. WOE is my acronym for What On Earth, which is the chant of the helpless victim – the victim can never see victory.
How do I know when I am shouting “YES” from an attitude of WOE? How do I know when I’m reading self-help blogs and books, hoping they will help me, but deep inside I don’t believe it?
Answer: I sense that something is missing in my life, and refuse to admit it. I sense that what’s missing is the original me – the Authentic Me that was born into this world absolutely free of howling NO’s. (Those 60,000 NO’s we hear from age two to six). I sense it but I do nothing to deal with it. I simply try to smear inspiring quotes over my feeling of ‘something is missing’.
The details of my story of 60,000 No’s is mine alone, but at the base of this story is a story that we all live through. We give up our soul and begin playing a role – a role that seeks approval, a role that wants to look good at any cost, a role insists on being right for fear of being wrong, a role that tries to dominate the world in order to avoid being dominated by the world. This role grounds my soaring spirit – it destroys my sense of self-initiative. Have you ever played this role?
How else do I know when I am shouting “YES” from an attitude of WOE?
Answer:I feel invisible because I am not in the world the way I would naturally like to be. My original, creative nature is buried deep under that haystack of NO’s that I heard between ages two and six.
There is nothing more painful than living beneath one’s potential. To agree that ‘WOE is me’ is the role you came here to play is a severely self-punishing curse. Have you felt it? Can you feel it now?
And what is one more way that I know when I am shouting ‘YES” from an attitude of WOE?
Answer: The natural light that shines bright within me is unable to illuminate the world so that I see its many treasures. With an attitude of WOE, I project my inner darkness onto the world, and the Law of Attraction kicks into action – bringing my fears and worries upon me.
Again, I remind you that my story is my story, but your story is the same story but with different circumstances and conditions to substantiate it.
So, how do I let go of my false role?
How do I let go of playing the role of helpless victim?
What can I do to reconnect with my soul, with the authentic me that is ready to succeed with whatever I set my mind to?
Answer:
1. GO ON HIGH ALERT! Practice catching yourself shouting “YES” when it is coming from an attitude of WOE. The attitude of WOE threatens you with feelings of losing even though you are shouting ‘YES” to winning.
2. TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR INWARD SELF-TALK! Take the time to say to yourself – “I refuse to listen to this erroneous feeling that is trying to sabotage my success.” Proper inward self-talk is key to Sweet Victory over WOE.
3. BECOME A TRAFFIC COP! Pause and wave the negative emotion on – let the negative emotion flow through. Don’t argue with it – simply let the negative emotion go on its way. Now you can begin working on saying “YES” in a confident voice that carries clout. This voice is soft. It need not shout.
What you’ve done with the above exercise is call upon an MD. An MD is a Marvelous Denial. You are taking the time to ‘deny the lies’ that give life to negative emotions – emotions that make you feel helpless and inadequate.
Millions love the voice that falsely shouts “YES.” They believe it has clout. They parrot motivational quotes, hoping that will help. This is why millions continue to suffer while silently hoping to achieve their dreams.
Freedom from the self-hampering voice that falsely shouts ‘YES” will leave you at the ocean’s edge – there, you find a vast sea of possibilities, coming like waves at you.
As you become Wonderfully Obsessed with Winning in life, WOW becomes your attitude of choice, and “WOW is me” becomes your natural tendency.
Teacher: The truth is never complicated.
Student: Why does it seem so complicated?
Teacher: The mind is complicated, and you’ve made it so.
Student: So where might I find clarity?
Teacher: Work with the mind until it becomes intelligent to WOW, and then you can start anew any moment you choose – including right now!
Dear reader of this blog, will you offer a comment, a tip or story that helps us see the ‘plight of WOE’ more clearly? How do you call an MD when you catch your mind lamenting in a woeful fashion?
A full explanation of 60,000 NO’s … WOE … WOW … and calling an MD is found in my book, A Second Chance At Success. Read the book and you will no longer be puzzled when seeking the path to powerful inner peacefulness, which assures outer success.
Thank you and blessings
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OMG! Awesome awesome awesome Rob. I am soooo a spiritual warrior. I never thought about it like that but it is a constant battle between authentic Kara counterfeit Kara. I guess it’s the same all over everybody is battling against the good and evil. Last nights roar show is just what I needed (as always u seem to sense sense that about me.). That’s my new mission when I get up early morning. I’m going to look in the mirror and say I’m a spiritual warrior ready to take on whatever needs fixing. Lord knows is no end to that battle with me ha ha ha ha
! I do so believe I’m a rich and majestic child of infinite intelligence. But even we need a good kick in the pants when we get up in the morning!!. So much of life is just overcoming barriers! Ya know in the media and office wherever… Everybody tries to pigeonhole me into what they think I should be. Even watching the Olympics can be strangely depressing and demotivating… It’s like they make me think I should have to be an Olympic ideal and look like a gymnast or whatever . But I’m only myself. And my self only. I’m just trying to get out of this rat race. To me that’s a gold-medal!… Ha ha ha ha ha 
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Hi Kara. The gold medal is when we understand that truths alone will never forsake us. You have come to this understanding. At one time you were betrayed because you trusted the messages offered by the 60,000 NO’s over the truth. No more of that for you, Kara, right? Thank you
One sure way to know i am coming from woe is when “they” are doing “it” to me. Righteous indignation is how “she” receives the corrections that mankind freely offers. An alternative way to receive those messages is in love. On good days I remember “together in love we are divine” and on our journeys, that we are all points in the same circle and, like an electron, I can be in their place in a moment. My job in that circle is to bump as gently as possible and not send both our worlds spinning.
Other telltale clues are planning conversations before they happen or reliving them after they’re done; Not knowing when to walk away and say there is no more for me here. Believing a liar, feeling insufficient; All these little perceptions are tools to help me to avoid drama and keep life simple and clean.
Hi sylvia. You are ready for a guest spot on WROAR blog talk-radio. Are yu ready for a guest spot on WROAR blog talk-radio? Believing a liar, Feeling insufficient. Not knowing to walk away. WOW, talk about walking toward a new and different world. You are well on your way. Thank you for sharing your life-lessons with us – they are very helpful. Blessings
ready or not…I’m ready. I’m on the elevator to 30,000 feet. And watching me on the elevator to there…not scary, interesting. Do you know any really rich people who can’t spell??
Hello Robert. Your story about the barn in the blizzard conjured up experiences of being out on the ocean when the fog rolls in. It happens quick and can be so totally disorienting that you can no longer just your own judgment of where you think you are. When the fog rolls in, you have to rely on sound scientific navigation. Well, that too is a perfect metaphor for when the WOE over takes us. You just can’t trust yourself to make sound decisions in your best interest when in that fog. When I’m in the WOE fog I make self-sabotaging decisions… financial losses happen, I piss off my wife or I back into a parked car.. or vote republican fer chris’ sakes! It’s like Im rudderless amidst a maelstrom and hanging on for dear life. It’s a dangerous game to navigate by WOE. People who do it their whole lives are the people who end up destitue and miserable. People like us are lucky to have enough sense to say enough is enough! Thats how it happens for me, anyway. I don’t shout YES, perse, but I definitely shout at myself like I imagine Vince Lomabardi would shout at me to pick myself up and take charge of my life. The key to navigating out of the fog is to just stay calm and trust that I have the resources and wisdom to come out safe, sound and ship shape.
Hi Salty. I love your WOE-fog metaphor. It is right on target. Reality is always ready to show us the way to our ultimate freedom, in spite of any dense fog that may try to get in the way. Right, Salty? Anyone who ceases to imitate the lunatic that runs around screaming “NO,” has a good chance of seeing the bright YES’s that we all dream of experiencing. Thank you Salty.
Hi Rob — yes, I’ve had similar reservations about trying to psyche myself up and “change my state” by shouting “yes,” jumping up and down, etc., as opposed to letting myself fully experience the “state” I’m in right now. In my experience, if I’m feeling sad, for instance, letting myself fully feel sad, without telling myself I “should” feel differently, actually has the sadness start to seem “okay” and no longer a source of suffering.
Hi Chris. That’s a powerful tip you share here. I like your easy style. There is a gentle wisdom to it. You are a good teacher. See the waves flood over the rocks on the ocean’s edge. The waves affect the rocks not. Don’t let negative emotions harm you when they flood over you – right, Chris? Thank you.
Hi Rob, I’d like to tell anyone that is reading this that with practice and diligence you really can take control of the self-talk. Once I caught on to the fact that it even existed, all of a sudden I was hyper aware of. At first I didnt really know what to do about, but slowly and surely I have been able to “take control of the inward self-talk.” My way of calling an MD is seeing the self-talk as someone elses voice, not mine. I see it as a sneaky trouble maker like a Dennis the Menace with a sling shot in his back pocket just to trying to raise hell and get into trouble. I am able to laugh at it and also see that like most trouble makers, they do it because they are bored and want to shake things up. The old me liked the problems and drama conjured up by my self-talk. Now that I know that it is separate from me and I dont have to listen to it I can give him a “time out” and send him to the corner. I’m more interested in feeling peaceful and productive, I don’t have the time or energy anymore to waste on feeling aggravated all the time. Cant wait for my book to get here… you’ve had us all waiting with baited breath!
Hi Roger. Seeing your self-talk as someone else’s voice (when it is giving you bad advice), that is a great idea. What better way is there to get rid of the old you (with the slingshot in his pocket). Go through the temporary discomfort of having this companion always by your side – he’s trouble, isn’t he. Thank you.
Hi Rob,
Brilliant!
What you wrote in your post is such an important reminder of the vigilance that is needed when we saying “yes”. As you so rightly explained, doing this without really meaning it, means we will continue to live in denial and will continue to suffer. When I’ve had such experiences, the sense of hope you mentioned is there. However, this hope is all that is there. It’s very subtle, but its definitely there. Underlying this hope is a belief that I don’t quite yet believe it is possible. It is this hope that needs to come to the surface, be exposed as being false and allowed to disappear. Underneath it, true inner strength and potential, which is free from all the fears exists.
Hi Hiten. We can avoid painful traps when we are vigilant when saying YES, can’t we. Spiritual light shows us the difference between compulsive wants and natural desires. This is the light from which you speak. I like your tone. You add to the conversation in a warm, yet powerful way. Thank you
Hi Rob,
Oh man, I can certainly relate to this empowering message you’ve shared here with us, Rob. I was truly convinced that my false self was my authentic self. Like so many in the world, I was recklessly addicted to my story. It sheilded me from having to be what I was afraid to become, but that I also deep down knew was possible for me. Whenever we allow ourselves to be victim-minded, we are choosing to block ourselves from becoming who we were created and meant to become. Since our initial introduction, I have become more confident in my no longer needing to play the “Woe is Me” song and dance, that I used to have on repeat. I have begun to see myself, as my Creator see me, and now believe the potential that I possess is endless and ever available to me. Am I totally where I need to be, or even where I want to be in life? Not by a long shot, but I am now able to pay closer attention to my self-talk and make the necessary corrections moving forward. And when the MD’s show up in my life, I no longer cower away and believe myself to be incapable of facing the lies that my false self tries to remind me of once believing for myself. Many, if not all of these realizations, have been the result of me paying close attention to the invaluable lessons you’ve shared with us here and on WROAR. I have ridden myself of the story, and become immensely and Wonderfully Obsessed with Winning. I have traded that sob story for a more victorious one. One that I now see was mine this entire time. Thank you, Rob – for the assistance you provided me with realizing my own potential and authenticity. Blessings.
Hi Deone. You have learned why life unfolds as it does. People wail out, “I don’t know why my life is so tough.” These people feel like they are being tumbled about by a tornado. When they learn the truth about themselves and life, this tornado-experience doesn’t happen to them anymore. This tornado life is not happening to you any more. You have a world of wisdom to share. Thank you for giving yourself to the world. Blessings
Hey brother man. I got your book all ordered up and am looking forward to diving in – get it?! ha!. Congrats on the new book too BTW.. I know it has been your labor of love! Anyway, your so right on this week. Living below our potential is a living hell. I’m guilty of it. It’s those periods of life when everything just seems black to me. But I guess its that the whole polarity thing, right? Everything goes black for me every once in a while, but when I am really truly feeling my full potential then everything is awash in golden glory! I know when I am living at my full potential because I am peaceful and just feel love and compassion for every one and everything that crosses my path. From the ants scurrying across the ground or some dude who cuts me off in rush hour traffic I feel a complete oneness with it all. When I get into WOE is me it is exactly the opposite. I feel separate and alone in the world. And no one can just postively affirm YES YES YES I am PEACEFULLLL!!!! DAMN IT!! You know it doesnt work like that. I’ve learned to calmly meditate and start with concentrating on breathing. Nothing could be simpler. Breathing is as simple, easy and wondrous as anything in this world. If I totally dedicate myself to mindful breathing, mindful walking etc there is no feeling of despair that I can’t pull myself out of. My tip to anyone who reads this is to learn how to breathe… I mean really breathe deep, calm and slow and you can see the perfection in the universe and the smallness of whatever hangup got you hungup!
I’ve just learned more and more that I cant depend on anybody to do this for me but me. I mean, mean who else is going to breathe for me?!
Hi Rus. You have enriched your mind and you have enriched your life. You suspected, long ago, that you were being harmed by wrong thinking, and you gave it all up. This broke wrong thinking’s power over you. The truth is stronger than your past fears, and you have proven this true. You now share the truth when you comment to my blogs. Everything is awash in golden glory when we let go of wrong thinking, isn’t it, Rus. Thank you, thank you.
Oh wow!
I think this one was written just for me. I wasted so many years shouting YES and trying to positively affirm my way through life! I mean there is nothing inherently wrong with trying to stay positive, say YES and use affirmations, but I was delusional in hindsight! 
I was so adamant that all it took was saying YES louder and louder and more frequently than everyone else that it would be enough to get me to abundance and prosperity. What I learned from my whacky “Secret” and “Law of Attraction” days is that I was just shouting and barking so loud that I could not hear reality. The reality was I had all these great dreams and aspirations but nothing in the real world to back it up. I had some half baked business plans and visions of heaps and heaps of easy money. In my opinion those YES shouts are the most dangerous thing in the world. In many ways cynicism is better because one can question everything and make informed decisions. I’m trying to strike a balance in my life. I know my organic farming plan wont work if I’m negative and doubtful, but I don’t want to whitewash over warning signs and the challenges that lay ahead. I can’t afford to go through another collosal failure at this stage in my life. I’m not going to do any shouting YES or NO, but I’m going to approach things analytical and on planet earth for once in my life.
Hi Alicia. Indeed, YES shouts are very dangerous when spoken with an attitude of WOE. You so know this, don’t you. Restlessness, shattered hopes, defeating feelings coming from within – these are some of the harmful consequences of YES-shouts spoken from an attitude of WOE. It is necessary to see through ourselves in order to avoid that slippery slope. You are looking, and you are seeing. Keep going. Blessings
Hi Rob,
Excellent post my friend. Exactly, there is no reason to stay playing the victim role in our lives. We have got to take responsibility for our thoughts and our lives. You know I’m a big fan of self transformation and getting rid of all those false beliefs that we tend to carry from early childhood. One of the things that I have been working on is the money domain as you know and I’m beinning to reap the results. I just increased the amount of money that I get by around $1800 a month. This is almost 2000 of extra cash month by month. This didn’t come by chance, but by regular practice and by regular work on my inner self talk and saying YES to MONEY. I believe one of the things that stood in my way was my desparation. I had no patience and I wanted things to happen fast and NOW. Once I started to relax and become in harmony with money, it started to flow to me more easily. My goal is to reach $10,000 a month and I’m sure with time, I will get it in time. Thanks for sharing my friend and thank you for showing me that we are destined to win at whatever we set our minds to.
Hi Dia. I know that money has been a challenge with you. Only those who honestly admit that they are lost are capable of finding their ways. You admit that you were lost in the domain of money, and now you are finding your way. you’re going to need a wheelbarrow soon – to cart your money around. Thank you for being part of the community. Blessings
Hi Rob, I know that dreadful feeling when I realize that something is missing. That feeling that the Authentic Me has been put to the side in favor of a quick easy answer. I get messed up when I try to take short cuts. The real me knows there is no quick formula to creative success. When I’m writing a new song and trying to write a “hit song” I create with a little knot in my stomach… In the business they call that the “Hit song fantasy”. I convince myself that I am creating something new and original but the Authentic Me knows I am sacrificing my art and my originality to please others. Real art just does not work that way. In the end I wind up throwing all that crap out because the result is always dreadful and embarrassing. When I create something that is mediocre, or take a chance on something that just does not work I’m OK with that as long as I know I tried something new and original. I try to make it a rule to always create for my Authentic Self these days. The common denominator in all my shitty work has been listening to what others think I should be doing.. the moment I start doing that is the moment that I should just sell my soul for a bag of peanuts. My best advice to anybody who reads this is to just let that stuff go in one ear and out the other. I’ve learned that if I’m trying to please others I’m just smothering my true creative side. I’d rather die in my own boots than die in an old age home. I dont know if you have seen “This is Spinal Tap” but to me is like, “A YES shout” is like turning my amp up to “11″ hoping that making it louder will cover up the fact that it stinks. I know I have made something that is good when I can play it at level “1″ or “11″.
Hi John. I like your volume regulator. Be it spoken at level 1 or level 11 – when you are speaking from the right psychic position, you raise your capacity for real artful creation. You truly poured your heart out here. You no longer live at the mercy of others. This freedom is what we are all searching for. Thank you
Good one Rob. Especially enjoyed the anecdote about the snow storm in the Roar show. I grew up in Wisconsin and we sure had our fair share of nasty blizzards! :0 I see that my negative self-talk can be like a blizzard. When I’m in a funk my negativity can get me so totally lost and disconnected from the Authentic Me I begin to wonder if I’ll ever find it again. But I’ve learned there is always a tether to reality if I’m really willing to look. I admit, sometimes I just say forget it! I’m mad and I’m gonna stay MAD! When I finally get sick and tired of feeling negative I can find that one little string that is attached to the Authentic Me and follow it out of the blizzard. It’s always something small… like appreciating the view, or laughing at my cat. If I keep pulling on that string eventually I come right back to the Authentic Me (Until the next Blizzard!
Sheesh! )
Hi Carol Anne. Finding that string that attaches you to the Authentic Self, and following it out of the blizzard of Nos’ … that’s a big one, isn’t it Carol Anne. The truly sincere person is one who is trying to save herself from herself (her false self). You are doing a great job. Thank you for sharing. Blessings
First, I’m sad to see the olympics go. For the first time in my life I feel like I watched them with a deeper understanding. In years past the olympics have been a side show and the butt of a lot of my jokes. My hubby and I used to kick back with a bottle of red and make fun of people who dedicated themselves to obscure sports like ping pong, archery or badminton..
Now that I’ve really taken a hard look at my own life I am downright envious of these people. After I got my divorce I really saw how small and narrow minded I could be. I was basically living in a little self absorbed bubble. Coming here has opened my eyes to new thinking… and you better believe I ordered up a copy of the book too! Anyway, on to this weeks topic… seeing the Olympics (and my life) differently has truly felt like every day I wake up I am a little more aware of the “authentic me.” By virtue of being so disconnected it’s literally like everyday feels like a chance to discover something new or think differently about something. And I’m not shouting YES… I’m just kind of awestruck about how blind I have been to seeing my life in this light.
Hi Joan. Being awestruck at how hardened your mind can become to the truth of your unlimtedness – that is the beginning of learning to say “YES” in an empowering way. The truth of your unlimited potential can penetrate your hardened mind as easily as a tulip can penetrate a cement wall. You are learning to loosen your mind to let the tulips of truth come in. I like your stuff. Blessings
Hi Rob. Yeah. Right on. I know A LOT of people who get wrapped up in this new age self-help talk and the reality is they can’t even help themselves to get up off their ass and actually DO something. Listen, I know I have my difficulties and problems but I always have a good grasp of reality. When I drink too much, I know I drink too much. I own it and look at it with some sort of wisdom. I don’t delude myself and think somebody’s going to save me and turn my life around. I wanted to believe a good woman would do it, but I’m over that. I got a good career and some hot pokers in the fire. If my love life stinks… fine… I aint shouting and howling at the moon like feral cat in heat anymore. Now I know that the authentic me has a certain weird genius and good niche in my profession. That is a gift. I know I’m good at that and I’m putting all my eggs into that basket and I’m going to watch those eggs like a hawk. No chanting or mantras or “infinite child” affirming is going to ever net better results than KNOWING what I’m good at and exploiting the hell out of it.
Hi Alan. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. Knowing what you are good at, and working to make it better – what better thing could you do with your time? Anyone can discover what his life on earth is supposed to be about if he / she chooses self-discovery first and foremost (finding out what they are good at). Blessings
You tell the most amazing stories. Your acronyms are so clever. They made me laugh. If there is anything, your posts just shows how innately creative you are. Thanks for lighting the way, Rob!
Hi Evelyn. Thank you for the compliment. We all like to receive favorable feedback, don’t we. The trick is to give ourselves favorable feedback even when times are rough. Sunshine exists when we stop hiding behind shadows. I am trying my best to do that, as are you. Thank you
Yoooo! What up ROBOBOB-0oo. Yo check it – I gots your new book in hand, it just came in today and that shiz is DOOOOPE!! MAn you Killed iT!!! SOn. I just started reading but just by flipping through the thing I can tell you put MAD HEARt & SOUL into that SHIZ!!! My one disappointment = why didn’t you put my name in the acknowledgements!??? HAHHHAHAHA
But for real all the pickle heads that are reading this blog best be getting a copy. I tell you what… this blog and ROAr show should be dedicated to all the wannabes who talk mad SHIZ but don’t back nuthn up. They are the facebookn, twittershits who think they know whats goin on but got NO IDEA bout what life is really about. Any nut job who sits home meditating and shouting YES in the mirror when they brush their dank ass teeth in the morning aint got time to make shit happen. Yo for real… I don’t mantrate and meditate — Im too busy TCB son … yeah TCB TCB is all there is to it. People make shiz waaay too complicated…. either you are makin your dreams come true or you be sleeping all day having WET dreams!!! HAHAHAHA. You know thats for real. Yo when I write my book (and you publish that shiz!!! 
) its just gonna be about calln people out to stop talking get WALKIN!!!!! HAHAHAHHA…. YO I think I just found my TITLE: STOP TALKN & START WALKN!!! subtitle : You stupid ass pickle head git your ass out in life and get laid!!!!! HAHAHAHHAHAHAH YO!! PAX out ROB – best o luck with the book! I thinks its gonnna BLOW UP. I got some ideas lets talk!
Hi Magic. Indeed TCB (Taking Care of Business) is important, if we intend to experience our lives as we hope they can be. I believe I understand the point you are making here – if we work and understand the mysteries of ourselves, we solve all other mysteries that we come upon. Thank you for bringing that out in your own unique style. Blessings
Hi Rob. Interesting premise this week. It’s not so much that I shout yes at everything it’s that I shout No! I find a lot of power in being cynical. But what you are saying is there’s no difference between shouting yes and shouting no. I think we just have to know what the hell we are shouting about! At least I’m not delusional about what I’m doing. When I’m angry then I am goddamn angry dammit!
The problem is too many people kid themselves into thinking they are on a higher plane. I see them everywhere. I see them on this blog. They have big ideas but in real life they are probably just as miserable as I am.
Hi Ramone. Shouting NO and finding power in being cynical, simply doesn’t offer the state of mind that will answer the questions that give you the life you really want. You secretly know that, don’t you. Free men liberate themselves from the compulsion to shout NO. You are improving with this, aren’t you. Thank you
Hi there Rob. As I’ve gotten older I found I am more susceptible to being cranky and crotchety. Being younger and ambitious I was never overly optimistic but more of a realist. It worked out well for me. But after all that hard work it’s hard to rouse myself to keep pushing forward. Part of me is done working hard and part of me is bored with just “going quietly into the night.” I’m skeptical of the whole RAH RAH you can do it Shout-Yes mentality so I dont have to worry about getting caught in that… overt optimism has never been my bailiwick. What I’m looking for is a steady drive, fueled by a real higher calling. I have to admit, I’m a bit scared that there is nothing out there that fits that description for an old dog like myself. I’ve dabbled in this and that but it all seems shallow. My drive for career and to provide for my family has always been my big motivation… my wonderful obsession if you will. How does one consciously find a new “Wonderful Obsession”. I feel like if it does not exist already, I just cant force it into action. Getting old is hard work! Life’ll kill ya if don’t stay occupied with something better than watching Seinfeld reruns every night.
Hi Georgie. One consciously finds a new Wonderful Obsession when he becomes his own master. Such a person accesses the power he needs to feel authentic compassion for his life journey. Now pours forth what he is really here to demonstrate and experience, and a Wonderful Obsession to fulfill on that takes over his mind. Blessings
Hi Rob. Yes yes … thats me all over. I’ve been a big YES shouter… guilty as charged. The weird thing is on a certain level it worked! I was just shouting YES at the wrong stuff. I was YES YES to overindulgence and hedonism thinking that I deserved some kind of weird privilege. Making easy money messes with ones head. I was shouting YES but all the while feeling like I really didn’t deserve any of it. So what did I do?? I just kept shouting louder and louder until it all came crashing down… they call that “Rock bottom” at the addiction games! I still get caught in it. I’ve overcompensated for my past indiscretions by getting too wrapped up in self-help talk. I take on that old “my shi# don’t stink” attitude of the newly converted. Its the same pattern with me. Shouting too loud, knowing deep down I’m full of it. That’s why I try to stay on the level these days. Not to high, not to low is the key to my latest success. I attribute this to staying grounded. I’ve got the book ordered. Cant wait to give it a read. I think you and I are kindred spirits in some ways. Best to you and wishing you success with the new book! I appreciate all the wisdom I have taken from the blog over the past year +.
Hi Richard. Yes, when we try to scream “I’m okay” loudly, we are, in effect, deaf to the deep inner voice that whispers “I’m okay” with absolute certainty. Turning oneself into a machine that shouts YES to success makes us incapable of hearing the truth when it comes knocking. This is why calling an MD (Marvelous Denial) is so valuable. Blessings
Very insightful post. We have to look beneath our YES shouts to see what we are really putting out there in the universe. Love the cartoon illustrations.
Hi Galen. looking directly at the YES-Shout reveals the machine that is ruling our minds and ruining our lives. Freeing ourselves from our machine-mind that bellows NO, requires looking beneath it by questioning all of our beliefs that make us feel anxious. This is something you’ve done, I suspect. I’m glad you like the illustrations – Nick does them. Blessings
I shout yes from an attitude of curiosity. This way I am accepting where I currently am but I am willing to let myself do something different.