You can listen to this weeks special and spontaneous conversation with Rob on the WROAR Radio broadcast of “What If Mom Said…”.
What If Mom Said:
Imagine being five years old, you’re sitting on the couch with mom, and here is what she tells you:
“Honey, I am always here to help you. And sometimes you will hear mommy say “NO”. The NO is always spoken out of my love for you and my admiration for the wonderful, wonderful person you are becoming right before my eyes. When I say, “NO” it is always meant to be a guiding light, even if it doesn’t sound that way.
Sometimes, honey, the NO will sound scary or stern. I am sorry when that happens. What it really means is that I am giving all of myself to help you use all of yourself to become even more wonderful than you are right now.
My thoughts always are about how proud I am of you and how much I love you. I hope that when I say “NO” that you will never let into your mind any thoughts, or believe any opinion, that makes you feel less than wonderful – because you really are a wonderful, wonderful child who’s growing to be a very successful adult.
Remember this, honey: no matter who may seem to say something bad about you, no matter how stern someone may sound when they say, “NO” – when a thought of being flawed, or broken, or something is wrong with you tries to get into your mind, you can take a moment to remember this wonderful conversation you and I are having right now. Okay?
Perhaps the NO is telling you that you need to correct your behavior, but never consider it a word that is saying something bad about you personally. Perhaps what you did was wrong, but the real you, with that beautiful smile, is right and perfect to help you correct what you did wrong. Okay?
I hope you carry this conversation with you everywhere you go for a long, long time. You will have many chances to prove to yourself and to the world that you are wonderful, and some people may say things that will convince you that you are not. What is most important is that you trust me right now when I tell you that you are wonderful, and that you trust yourself when you remind yourself that this is true – especially when someone says or does something to you that makes you feel nervous.
I promise that I will l help you keep your heart and your mind clean of untrue thoughts about you. Untrue thoughts are the thoughts that make you want to cry. Please come to me whenever you feel bad about yourself, so that I may once again help you fill your mind with wonderful thoughts about you. When we work together we can see where you may have made a mistake, and we can lift you out of any mood that makes you feel like you are broken. And soon you will be able to do this by yourself.
When you feel confident about yourself, honey, you will do wonderfully well in all of those things that are important to you. You will do the things it takes to make your dreams come true, and you will know that I am always by your side guiding you even when I am somewhere else.
There is so much good out in the world that is waiting to meet you, Honey. This means that you must pay attention to thoughts that make you smile, and the whole world will smile with you. Try to realize the great moment we are having right now. How can you do this? By remembering what I am telling you, remember it over and over again until it is easy for you to remember. Okay?
I love you, honey. I care so much for you. The world is waiting to give you good things if you think the thoughts that we have shared right now, and if you do the things that naturally come to you after thinking these thoughts.”
Student: What is character?
Ralph Waldo Emerson: Character is the habit of action from the permanent vision of truth. It carries a superiority to all of the accidents of life. It compels right relations to every other man – domesticates itself with strangers and enemies.
Dear friend, I hope you can feel the wonderful truth this mom is sharing with her child. I hope you feel the truth so clearly that the truth will live with you, and will motivate you with every thought, every word and every act that flows through you.
If you take Emerson’s advice and make these words a positive vision of truth for you, they will mold a habit of action that will express the incredible human being you are here to experience.
Make your permanent vision of truth: “I am wonderful.” Attune your mind to it, and watch the world that unfolds for you.
On a side note: If you are in Boston, you cannot afford to miss our next Mind Adventure Meetup. Space is very limited. More info here.