What don’t you like about yourself? Dare to answer honestly… we all did. The truth will surprise you and set you free! You can listen to the WROAR Radio broadcast of “Uncertainty & Insecurity is Inevitable” with co-hosts JK and Deeone below.
Uncertainty & Insecurity is Inevitable.
If anyone tells you that they have a guaranteed formula for success – they are lying. I am not writing blogs to give you the feeling of absolute certainty. Helen Keller said, “Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.” How very true!
How can life be a daring adventure if there is not a degree of uncertainty? If anyone makes you any promises of a completely predictable future – be wary.
I am writing my blogs to alert you to the fact that the odds are in your favor, in spite of all the insecurity that comes with living an adventurous life.
An adventurous life is a life filled with lofty aspirations and aims in all domains – the business domain, the relationship domain, the family domain, the money domain …
I imagine that you seek out wise folks to guide you because you are hoping for some kind of certainty. Everyone does this to some degree (I do, too). We would all love to find some kind of dogma that we could rely upon, some doctrine that would give us a 100% money back guarantee.
THERE IS NO DOCTRINE!
When I dare make my life an adventure, by plunging into the unknown, I think of the feeling of insecurity as the feeling of freedom. I am free of the imprisonment that I experience when I hide deep in my comfort zone.
One great asset of feeling insecure is that it alerts you to reality, and makes you more aware. I choose to look at reality rather than bury my head like an ostrich. When I retreat from life, by burying my head like an ostrich, I become ignorant. I ignore all of the beautiful insights and life-lessons that life is offering me.
One great asset of feeling insecure is that it alerts you to reality,
and makes you more aware.
All great achievers transform the feeling of insecurity into eager anticipation – what an incredible feeling of freedom this brings with it!
Life is either a robot-like, mechanical process or it is a magnificent experience of one’s unlimitedness. Which shall it be for thee?
No one knows for certain what is going to happen in the next moment. If someone knows what is going to happen in every moment – if even God knows what is going to happen in every moment – then we have no freedom to create our lives as we desire them to be – it is all predestined, and we are just puppets. If this is the case, then the whole game of life is phony – there is no game if the outcome is predestined.
Folks ask me, “What is it like to feel so certain about your destiny?”
I answer, “I feel as insecure as the next guy, but I experience the insecurity as freedom to choose to be who I choose to be … to do what I choose to do … and to have what I choose to have. And furthermore – in spite of the insecurity, I find that when my beliefs are powerful, my predictions are more accurate than inaccurate.”
There is nothing that makes me more thankful than the intuitive voice that says, “Awake thou that sleepest.” This voice speaks to all of us. Are you listening?
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Illuminating Tip:
Cease to cherish opinions that make you value security.
Go for it! Go for your loftiest dreams.
No one is more deluded than he who seeks security.
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What say thee to this blog? Dares’t you speak of your moments of insecurity, and how you’ve had breakthroughs? Share for the sake of others. Share, that you might remind yourself of the value of insecurity.
Blessings and thank you
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“Best Comment of the Week.” This weeks best comments come from Dia of 2achieveyourgoals and John. Thank you for your heartfelt sharing. See their comments here. Illustrations by nick
Whew! I just hafta to say that that was intense!….. and awesome! I swear you were talking right at me when JK said he was worried about looking good. I think that has been my biggest hang up lately. Even when I go out with my friends I’m not quite myself. When i want to let loose I feel like I cant. It all comes back to wanting to look good …. even when no one is watching!!! LOL
And yes, Deoone! OMG I want EVERYONE to love me and fall in love with me. What is that?! I hate that about myself. Not even dislike 
I have such need of approval it keeps me stuck with the same old scene and the same old conversation. i’m ready to break out after last nights show. Even JK touched on this inner fire I have burning. I just got to break free and stop diddling around with the same old crowd. I’m really transforming now. There is a big difference and I think I can finally feel it. Thanks for this everyone!! 
I’m glad to know that I’m not alone, Kara.
That always takes the sting out of ripping off the band aid, doesn’t it? It seems we’re both lovers. #LoversROCK!! 
Hi Kara. ‘Wanting to be liked’ … ‘wanting to look good’ … indeed these are two curses that come with the 60,000 NO’s that we receive between age two and six. How do we escape them? Dare to take on transformation so that you may be the free-being you were before the NO’s. Self-improvement is trying to improve oneself so everyone likes us … so we always look good. That ‘just ain’t gonna happen’, is it. Thus the reason that self-improvement alone is not enough, is never really satisfying. Thank you
Oh Boy, Rob, I must say this was a very timely lesson for me. Here we have a topic that everyone wants to talk about – because we all deal with this, whether we’d like to admit it or not – but no one really dares to bring it up. To bring it up, would mean the persona we’re presenting to the world, isn’t as delicately put together as we’d like for it to be seen as. And that, I’m sure petrifies most people from even having this type of discussion. I could even totally relate to what, both you and Jk had to say, on each of the things you both shared you didn’t like about yourselves. Could it be that we have more insecurities than we’d like to own up to, and do not, out of fear that having too many visible would really make us look as if we were as limp as a wet noodle? I certainly have a few… I had to hurry up and pick just one of them, when it was my turn to answer.
Last night, as you responded to what I didn’t like about myself, I had one of the greatest loads being lifted off of me; the same load that has followed me for as far back as I can remember. Never would I have thought to look at it from a perspective, as the one you presented me with.
By the time I met you, I knew I wanted to redefine my life, but that really was all I knew. I didn’t know how it would happen, or if it was even possible for me to do. However, from the moment I turned the first page of “180″, my life has continued to stretch it’s limits, and I now want to see just how far I can grow. The growth I’ve seen and felt within myself thus far, is indescribable. I cannot thank you, sir, enough for the transformation that continues to take place in my life. I now, not only know that a transformation is possible for me, but I can honestly say, that I’m undergoing one right now!
I’m extremely comfortable with being “the lover”, I am. I know there will still be days I have to make adjustments, but I’m really good with having to do that now. I’m looking forward to having an experience, for me to practice – and I know one is just around the corner, I’m sure.
BTW, great job on the illustrations this week Nick! Noteman looked incredibly vibrant this week.:)
Awesome lesson, Rob. This one is going down in the ole gratitude journal!
Cheers!
Self-transformation comes through esoteric self-work. Esoteric self-work comes from asking, “What might I see in myself if I truly felt valuable and worthy of a fabulous life?” This is what you are continually asking in a thousand ways every day, Deeone. Your comment is proof of this. Blessings
…I’m listening…
And life truly is an adventure. Every time I step out there and take myself out of my comfort zone – I grow in new ways. And there is an alive-ness in that, which is so, so good…
Hi lance. Are you listening? Then listen to this: It is in the recognition or non-recogntion of the truth that man finds or fails to find his unlimited nature. Did you hear that? I am sure you did. Blessings
Great discussion, Rob. I don’t like my need to look good, or to maintain the goodwill of everyone around me, either. There is an internal feeling of relaxation that accompanies saying that sort of thing, much more so when I’m face to face with another person and I say it.
Hi Chris. You are beginning to see why the sages say that the worst deception is self-deception. We practice self-deception when we refuse to tell ourselves what we truly dislike about ourselves. Only in seeing the bad can we make it good. Thank you
Wow…I want to look healthy and have enough energy to walk and enjoy life…but now it feels more as if this wish is just for me…I want how healthy I feel on the inside to show on the outside – they do not match Actually in my life they have never matched except for a short time in college…I loved those years and it is not that I want them back but I want to be apart of that energy and zest for living…I loved the risky conversations we had and the “free love” and hippie ness and protesting the war…
I have always been a big risk taker, but I think that is why I have such chronic pain and fatigue…I was not balanced and burned myself out.
It was hard being the first woman in graduate school one of 11 out of 750 male students – I am proud that I did not have a nervous breakdown.
Part of the outside too is having funds…I do not like being dependent on others
Good and intense post…evolving in my thinking in response
Hi Patricia. You are matching yourself with the truth, Patricia. It is a difficult task to take on. It is the only way to live accurately, but we first have to go through the pain of seeing how many incredible miss-takes we make. Your inward state of the heart makes the truth important and desirable to you. I like your spunk. Blessings
What dont I like about myself? Are you sure you want me to answer that? I have quite knack for self flagellation and thought I was supposed STOP going down that road!
Anyway, a big one for me is that I hate it when I drink to much and act a fool. I’m a pretty serious and smart fellow, but when I loose it around booze I feel like a real jerk. I look like a jerk in front of women, and more than once I have looked like a jerk in front of co-workers who I want to respect me. That’s the biggest one I regret. I work so hard week in and week out from 8-5 and I can loose a ton of credibility with just a little lapse of judgement. I havent done this lately but I’m definitely worried that tendency is still there. I’ve just been avoiding those situations but I cant do that forever. Any tips on how to be a cool customer during happy hour? 
I could use a good self-improvement tip there. ha 
Hi Alan. When you look at what you don’t like about yourself, Alan – you look at it to gather more reasons to beat yourself up. When I ask you to look at what you don’t like about yourself, I want you to look so you can use the negative feeling to lift your spirit. It can actually work! Listen to last weeks blog talk-show radio broadcast again. thank you.
You get my mind a-reelin and my blood a boiling with the ROAR shows Rob! Keep it going please. I need my medicine when I least want to take it! And this was one of those hard to swallow pills. Answering what I don’t like about myself was tough. I gave myself a couple softball answers at first… like: “I care too much.” or “I love too much.” Seriously! Boooring…. haha. When I finally got down to it I kind of surprised myself. I still hate it when I mess up a job or do sloopy work. I’ve been doing this work for so long I think it is beyond me to get lazy and sloppy. But I still do it and the bad part now is I deny that I do it. I convince myself its OK to be a bit lazy because nobody will notice. And when I do go down that path I just gnaws at me. I regret it forever. I’m like the elephant that never forgets. If I revisit a work site that I know was a rush/sloppy job it is like the “tell tale heart” beating underneath the floor boards. It’s an easy fix. If I just do it right the first time and everytime I will avoid all that guilt. It may take a bit longer but at least I can move on. I hope that is a ringing endorsement for anyone who needs a contractor out there!
Hi Roger. Make the conditions in your life, all of the conditions in your life teach you what you have to know in order to be who you truly desire to be. You still hate it when you do a sloppy job. That emotional condition is reminding you that you are an expert, and excellence is possible, isn’t it. Nothing needs to change but your heart, and when you heart changes – seeking excellence, always, shall be your passion. Blessings
Rob,
I really appreciate and enjoy your insights. Sometimes the subtext of blogs is that if you are not deliriously happy all the time you are doing something wrong.
I think the nature of existence is struggle and the reality of life dictates that you win some and you lose some. So the name of the game is to give life your best shot (i.e. realize your potential – which is basically unlimited) and if you do life will be a most satisfying adventure. On an side note – two days ago I visited Helen Keller’s birthplace in Tuscumbia, Alabama – what a woman and what a story!
Riley
Hi Riley. the rigorous rules of reality include the Law of Struggle – there is no getting around it (though many folks would like to get around it). The secret to dealing with struggles is to remain untroubled while struggling. YES, this is possible, But, avoiding the struggles is not possible. Evolution won’t have it! Thank you for pointing this out. Blessings
Interesting how the process of self-transformation brings you to all new streets (avoiding the potholes). However those areas where you don’t much like yourself are areas where you are still seeing yourself on that potholed street. I wonder how and why the work gets done in the order it does. Does it go from easiest to hardest? Most urgent to least urgent? I don’t have enough perspective yet to really describe it in my own journey, but I can say that things seem to unfold exactly as they should. Most recently the messages are getting more and more obvious and repetitive. Perhaps I am just seeing them more clearly and paying closer attention – the language is a bit like unlocking a box and discovering the secrets therein – once you have the key, you are on your way. I never imagined I could meet someone who won’t admit to anything they don’t care for in themselves. I identified with Rob’s example. Another one is my lack of true self care with my physical body which went to heck after I had my youngest child at 41. There seemed to be no real recovery possible so I just aid a little bit of attention to it and put my energy elsewhere – not a good idea as I have been out of commission for over a week now between a chest cold and my lower back going out. You see, I didn’t listen well enough to the MANY messages I got to “rest.” I can still hear Deeone plain as day in my intuitive mind – the whole audience saying,”You are worth it, you are of value, we wish for you to see that for yourself.”
Thank you for that intuitive message you shared here, concerning what you hear from me on WROAR, Julie. I’m truly grateful and humbled that the growth I’m experiencing in my life at this moment, is being seen and encouraged by others. I am not only uncovering my worth and value through the lessons Rob continues to share with us, but I’m finally arriving to the place I can own that worth and value, as well. Again, I truly thank you for acknowledging what’s taking place, and for your giving me your cyber thumbs up, to go for it! Cheers, my friend.
Hi Julie. Surrender yourself to that which is truly right. Surrender yourself to that which is truly right. Surrender yourself to that which is truly right. I have said the same thing three times because this is a BIG ONE. What I love about your rigorous honesty, Julie, is that you are willing to surrender yourself to that which is truly right. Use your anguish as a sign to turn to higher truths, Julie. The self-liberated woman cannot be hurt by her anguish. You are becoming a self-liberated woman, aren’t you. THANK YOU!
You all touch on a lot of big issues for me this week. Something I struggle with is a desire for security and the freedom of an artist. Maybe the great ones never worried about security and just went for it? On the other hand there is soemthing to be said to be able to make a living as an artist. the hardest thing is to go to market with only your soul. I never want to compromise my creativity, yet I want to survive. I have tremendous respect for any working artist who does whatever it takes to make ends meet. I’ve defnitely choosen the path of adventure and uncertainty in my own life. Heck, I studied “international business” in school and have yet to do a thing with that. Establishing a career in that field would yield a certain degree of security for sure. So, back to the big question, what I don’t like about myself is when I start making songs that I think other people want to hear and maybe I can make a quick buck with. I hate that sometimes I am so willing to “sell out”, but I know there is the reality that says I need to survive. Seems to me it goes back to that ‘eternal struggle’ JK and Deeone talked about. The desire to be liked. Nothing could be more “oh love me love me” than getting up on stage, playing my songs and then waiting for applause. If I were a perfectly enlightened artist I would get up there, crank out my soul and not give a flying f^&% about who likes it and who doesn’t. I would love to have the freedom to do that. Maybe I can work towards it and it is just process. I know I have talent, and I believe I can get to my own particular genius if I keep going. But it seems there are others who skip all that and go straight to divine. I hate it that I’m not one of those. But like I said, If I can make it as a working artist I would say I am living a dream.
Hi john. You are an artist. Your comment demonstrates your artistic spirit. You have so much to offer, not only with your music, but with what your wisdom. You’ve rejected the artificial happiness with which most people live, and you are living proof of the fact that there is a way to happiness and success for everyone. thank you.
Hi Rob. I’ve never felt certain about my destiny, but I can tell you it sure has been one daring adventure after another. The only thing that is certain is that things are always changing. One thing I’m good as is being ready for that change and anticipating a new adventure. A lot of my friends admire my jet set attitude. I think it is because they tend to get stuck in a rut and fall into a routine. I’ve never been one that is much for routine. I think that has helped me stay flexible and open minded. I march to the beat of my own drummer and it always changing the tempo. People who tick along like metronomes are dull dull dull!
They never go anywhere or do anything outside of the comfort of their petty routines. Yechh! It’s not like I have to GO, go go all the time either. Somedays I feel like slugging out and doing nothing. And I’m OK with that. I think too many people seek security in routine because they are scared of life. I think “certainty” stinks. That’s when life becomes a chore. To me insecurity means doing what you feel and obey your right to change your mind. I may be certain of one thing today, but have a totally different opinion tomorrow.
I like what you say here, Caroline. Insecurity means having the right to change your mind. WOW, we tend to make a virtue of the faults we do not want to correct; how about making a virtue of changing our minds when we see we are at fault and it is time to correct. NICE! Thank you for that. Blessings
Hey brother man! Darn skippy… I love bein out there adventuring around. No matter how many times I see that Helen Keller quote it manages to strike a chord in me. What I like most is that every ones adventure is totally different and has nothing to do with anybody else. I’ve found that it is easy to get complacent and fall into a comfort zone. One day we are adventuring and then we get comfortable with that adventure. When I started my business that was a huge scary leap for a guy like me. But lo and behold a couple years down the line I’ve got myself a nice little business that is humming along. Now it takes not so much effort just to maintain. The real question is how to monitor ourselves to be sure we are not just slip sliding and drifting on and on? Like once Deeone becomes a best selling author, and JK becomes a grandfather there is going to be a point where it just gets too easy. What I do is just try to learn from everybody and practice the art of deep-listening. When I truly listen I find that lessons abound and I can take my own adventure to the next level. I’m a people person, so lately I have found that my greatest adventures happen when I make it a point to meet and listen as many people as I can. The more I shut up and listen, the greater the trip I take. Like just listening deeply to the different perspectives on the ROAR show has me live a lifetime in just 30 minutes! What a thrill. By practicing deep listening my own adventure never ends and keeps getting me out of my comfort zone of what I’ve been indoctrinated to hear. That’s why I’ve been saving my pennies for some travels abroad. I cant wait to see what I can learn from just experiencing different cultures.
Hi Rus. ‘Practicing deep listening;’ now that is a practice that could turn the whole world around. I like that, Rus. In other words, listen from a higher level. I can see that you have done that in many domains of your life, Rus. This is why your comments are so interesting. Thank you
I was very afraid of plunging into the unknown. Even now and then, whenever I know that I have to do something beyond my comfort zone, I get a chill down my spine. Still, I would do my best to forge ahead.
What I have come to realize is this: security is an illusion. What we deem as secure is likely to be a perception. True security is resting on the deep awareness that no matter how insecure the situation looks, we are fundamentally okay.
Hi Evelyn.
Student: What if we make foolish mistakes along the spiritual path?
Teacher: I will go a thousand miles in mistakes that the next step of the journey may be honest and true.
This is what you are looking for – isn’t it Evelyn.
thank you
Hi Rob and JK and Deeone. Superlative show and blog this week. I’m having an up-week this week. One thing that has been a nice boost has been thinking about my own “pot holes” along the way. I’m bit more forgiving of my messups and not harsh for making such a mess of my life. I’m not feeling like it is permanent and there is no hope ahead… but believe me I can go down that road at the drop of hat. I’m learning to get out of my head and take on the “pot hole” perspective. I’ve become so attached to being Angry it’s like I drive around aiming for pot holes! How crazy is that. It was Deeone that got me thinking this week about being particular about who we hang out with. I don’t get out much, but when I do I tend to meet up with the same friends who love my Angry side. Together we are all toxic pessimists. I just don’t know why if feels so damn good to rant and rave. It’s a drug to be sure. I have to stop hanging out with those characters because I just can’t afford to be thrown for a loop again. One night out with a few beers and a whole lot of negativity gets that energy flowing for another week. I’m working on finding more peaceful people. But thats tough for a natural cynic. I think they are all full of it and kick em to the curb before I can find some common ground. It’s going to be a tough one to swallow, but think joining like a Yoga group, or a hiking group could be a good start. I’m just so sick of the relapse effect I get when I hang out with my usual crowd.
Hi Ramone,
Student: What healthy changes will come to me if I hang out with a new crowd of people who are looking in the right direction?
Teacher: From this kind of company arises the most perfect satisfaction and contentment, if you allow these feelings to rise up from deep inside of you.
ponder this for a moment, Ramone.
Thank you.
Hi Robert. Yes yes. I love an adventure. One thing is for sure I won’t check off this planet for want of getting into to trouble. I’m always ready to mix up and get on the high seas of life. When I’m not physically travelling around I make it a point to keep exploring my mind. I think that’s what makes me such a restless soul. The drive to push beyond the tried and true is what keeps me sailing the ocean blue! To me the worst thing is to become stuck in a rut. I always say, “I have to do something even if it is wrong.” This is a credo I live by. It keeps me on my toes. Sometimes it gets me into trouble, but I love trouble. I think you do to. It’s our job on this planet to keep exploring the limits of our intellect, and of our environment. I stay vital by staying active in the two worlds of mind and intellect.
Hi Salty. Getting stuck in a rut is not you. That is clear to me.
Student: What causes folks to get stuck in a rut?
Teacher: The rabbit condemns the trap, not itself … and it fails to learn from its mistakes.
That is certainly not you, Salty.
Thank you
It’s a strange paradox my good man, I’ve spent my entire life searching out certainty and security. Now that it is here nothing could be more banal. We are taught to spend our whole lives working hard so that we can pay off a mortgage, put our kids through college and retire with nest egg. It was a ton of work and an adventure in it’s own way, but now I am in the position of being comfortable. And now all I want to do is go back to the days of excitement when nothing was certain. What to do? As long as I have this security behind me am I real out on adventure? I suppose the real adventure would be giving it all away and starting from scratch. Yikes! That is a scary thought. I’ve had trouble pushing myself to new limits in retirement. I think it is because the “adventure” aspect is a tad false. What I’ve been up to is only the illusion of Insecurity and uncertainty. I have a lifetime of assets and accomplishments to fall back on, so I’m just not sure If I can ever recover that youthful exuberance that defined by my formative years.
Hi Georgie. YES, when we say YES to security, we say NO to adventure. Security seekers prefer to be dependent on others, on the government, on a God that lives high in the sky in order to be protected. Those who live with insecurity prefer the adventure of taking command of their lives. Thank you
One of the good things about being such a scatter brain is that everyday feels like an adventure! Maybe that’s why I’m addicted to the chaos of my disorganized ways and habit of starting soap operas? If I’m not engaged in a healthy adventure, I go ahead and make trouble. The secret to any success I have had is to keep constantly exploring healthy projects and initiatives. I love the thrill of the new and uncertain. Once I achieve a certain level of comfort I’m on to the next thing. It’s a blessings and curse I suppose. It keeps life interesting, but at the same time it makes me a bit wishy washy in the eyes of society. The challenge for me is reconcilling my need for silly distracting adventures, and healthy adventures that truly contribute to my growth and development.
Hi Alicia. “The secret to any success I have had is to keep constantly exploring healthy projects and initiatives” … YES, and ‘the exploring’ invites more insecurity – what a great rush. Right, Alicia? Thank you.
Hello Rob, I hope your week is going well.
Just like every other person, I’ve always wanted security and certainty. This blog post has helped me make some sense of my reason for wanting these things so badly. And let me say…it always feels so good to make sense of the “things” that stand to secretly hold us hostage. And my insecurities definitely hold me hostage when I’m not conscious of them.
One story, that contributed to the 60,000 knows that drove me to this destination, that I battle to this day, is experiencing events where total control was stripped from me. This experience embarrassed me and made me feel inferior; both items that lead to an abundance of insecurity (for me).
When I was in the 8th grade (a very impressionable time in my life). One day after school, I walked off the bus with a group of friends and large group of school mates to a mess of furniture, clothes and belongings scattered around my apartment building…After taking a few steps off the bus, I realized that WE HAD BEEN EVICTED. That experience still haunts me. The laughs, the whispers, the glares…they all made a significant impression on me.
Today this affects in two ways. On one side of the coin, it makes me a bit conservative and sometimes overly calculated in taking risks, because I NEVER want my kids to experience similar events, which I’ve experienced multiple times. I tend to act “safely” rather than confidently in approaching some things.
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I said it makes me “a bit conservative and sometimes overlay calculated”. What I meant by that is that it makes me feel insecure and uncertain about outcomes.
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On the other side of the coin, it reminds me of my ability to adapt and thrive no matter the cards I’m dealt. It reminds me that I don’t sit around crying about my past experiences, instead, I do what I can to ensure that those experiences aren’t replicated in the future. My living situation is FAR different than it was back then — so I’m winning. It reminds me that I can win if I reeeaaally want to win, no matter the odds. In fact, it reminds me that the odds are stacked in my favor. It reminds me of the self-transformations that I’ve made in life. This reminding’s’ make me feel worthy of more (more good things).
When I’m hit with the feelings of the bad side of the coin (insecurity), it empowers me to flip the coin and celebrate the good side of it. When I fail to respond to the bad feelings, by letting them be, and not flipping the coin, the bad feelings fester and make me cower. When I’m brave, and flip the coin, I literally feel like an over-dog, and that the cards are stacked in my favor.
Not sure if any of that made a lick of sense. But it did to me…and I surely feel good after writing it.
Thank you, Rob!
-Jk
Hi Jk. I love your ‘scattered furniture story’, and what you got from it. It makes a lot of sense! One’s philosophy is the art and the law of his life. Your philosophy is the art and the law of your life, Jk … and a lot of your philosophy comes from insights you’ve gained from past moments of fear and pain. Those who conquer ‘fear of insecurity’ will conquer all of the rest, Jk …. That’s YOU! Thank you for offering intimate moments of your past – it adds ‘real life’ to the conversation. Blessings
Hi Rob,
Big goals are accomplished when we let go of our security and take a chance. It’s a challenge, frightening at times depending on how much you have at stake, but there will be no regrets and feelings of “I should have done this or that,” when we reach the end of our lives. We will have given it our all and either reaped the benefits or have the satisfaction of knowing that we tried. Either way it’s a win!
Hi Cathy. If we work at what is before us, following our intuitive urges intelligently, vigorously and calmly, without allowing anything to distract us … and if we hold to this vision, expecting nothing but our ideal to become real in our lives, then there is nothing able to prevent its manifestation. This is what it takes to ‘give our all’. Rarely do we do this (not me … not most of us). If we did, the world would be a very different place, wouldn’t it. How would you rate yourself on a scale of 1 to 10 with doing this? Blessings
Yo watt uP ROB-bee-BOP!! You know I aint one to get all bashful and insecure about life. I’m all about walking into any situation and be cool calm and collected. I don’t care if I’m mixing it up in a biker bar or schmooozin it up at the Ritz with some high rollin fuddy duddies. My confidence knows no limits son! It’s makes me keep on winning in any situation! Yo, I coulda been a sniper in the marines as easy as I coulda been the next Hugh Heffner. My problem is directing my confidence so I mix it up more. I like to go into situations where I can just take over the scene like Jack Nicholson on smack HAHAhAhA
Difference is I aint actin tho. My shiz is 4 real. My latest and greates project pushes my limits just a litlle bit. Thats aight cuz I’m gonna take over the literary world just like I take down everything else i set my sights on! Yo – this is big for me, cuz I’ve already been rejected mad times by these old school pickle head publishers. It’s like they want you to bend over and take it up the Yahoo, for 20 years before they even acknowledge you are in their face! It’s mad whack. But i aint backin down. Every dope that turns his nose up at my style is gonna be eatin that decision for a life time. Elvis is in the house and first one to recognize my talents is gonna CA$H in! This change is most biggest one I’ve ever taken on. I havent even told my moms or any of my boys. There is one goom I talk about it to but even she don’t get how serious I am about becoming a Pubbed up author. For now i am keepin it low key and just building my fire. It’s gonna take maybe a year, but I’m committed cuz this aint small time stuff no more. YO – I aint never been committed to ANYTHING for more than like 3 months at a time. I just conquer shiz, get bored and move on. To say a YEAR for me is like saying 50 years for all the snail people crawling around out there. Well, I I gots to check out cuz I got some Mad Magic Words to spin for the world to see. PAX OUTTTT ROBBY! Pay attention I’ll be blowin up sooner than you now it! 
Hi Magic. Your confidence knows no limits. This is true when you never willfully misrepresent anything about yourself to anybody at any time, when you’ve never willfully participated in a scheme to get ahead, when you attempt in a humble way to help others so that they may help themselves. How do you rate yourself with these three criteria, Magic? Blessings
Hi Rob. I want to learn how to be better about managing my breakthroughs. It seems my uncertainties and insecurities have been situations that I have had no control of. Because I’m thrust into bad situations I was forced to have breakthroughs (ie Divorce). I had to go through a lot of muck and mire to get to the light. I have to admit I am way too shell shocked to actively seek out uncertainty and adventure these days. I’m quite happy now that I’ve reestablished a degree of normalcy and comfort again. Is it so wrong to be happy with status quo for the time being? I feel like I’ve fought long and hard to get to this point and want to enjoy it for a while. The last thing I want is to go through the roller coaster of insecurity again. To be honest I like my life and for the first time right now. Why rock the boat? There has to be a point in our lives where we reach a level of satisfaction and stop pushing. I feel like I’m just not into adventuring at this point in my life.
Hi Joan. “I feel like I’m just not into adventuring at this point in my life.” There are three kinds of silence … silence from words (which is pretty good) … silence from desire to take an adventure (which not so good because this silence is usually caused from feelings of resignation) … and silence from emotional thoughts (which is the best), because with the third silence we can see clearly all of the rest. From which silence are you looking at your life? Blessings
Hi Adam. You are from Australia? I like your mind-map art work – creative! You mention on your website that you are a qualified life-coach. I am always curious what that means … and who qualifies one to be a ‘life-coach’. Could you elaborate? When we choose self-command for ourselves right now, do we need others for answers or can we seek the kingdom of answers that lies deep within ourselves?
Blessings