This is a big one. Are you ready for it? The winning way is self-transformation.
We hear about self-improvement often. There are thousands of books that give us tips on how to improve ourselves mentally, physically, financially, in relationships, at work ….
Self-improvement is a process of making small changes in our lives – where we improve our health habits, improve our memory skills, improve our relationship skills, improve our musical ability, improve our ability to make more money, improve our sales technique.
Everyone loves self-improvement, yet something often seems to be missing.
Now let’s look at self-transformation. We don’t hear a lot about self-transformation. This is because we are conquered by worried emotions so often than we cannot begin to imagine taking on a campaign to regain total self-command.
Self-transformation is a process of creating ourselves anew – where we examine our daily thoughts and activity to see how we are slumbering upon ourselves, where we notice how we are behaving in fearfully reactive ways, where we become conscious of self-defeating behavior, and actually recognize it as self-defeating.
Only the daring choose self-transformation
Only the daring choose self transformation because self-transformation requires valuing more light rather than crying over the darkness … valuing days without worries more than enjoying the drama of wailing out “poor me”… valuing the end of self-doubt rather than coming up with excuses when things aren’t working out … valuing living one’s own life rather than hoping someone else will give you the perfect action plan for perfect success.
It requires daily alertness to adopt the above values – it means seeing that we place ourselves in psychological prison when we don’t dare value these things.
I am not putting down self-improvement. Self-improvement offers a healthy viewpoint … up to a point. But self-improvement doesn’t rid you of those feelings of helplessness, it doesn’t offer you experiences of casualness and calmness when the going gets tough, it doesn’t rid you of the hidden hostility that grips you when others oppose your point of view.
As part of your program for outrageous success – dare to choose self-transformation. To do this, you must sacrifice the false pleasures that self-improvement offers. Some folks improve their health habits to feel superior to unhealthy people. Some people improve their memory skills to look smarter than others. Some people improve their relationships skills to manipulate others. Some people improve their money-making skills to lord it over others.
When folks strive constantly for self-improvement to gain false pleasures, like the ones mentioned above, their lives continue to feel empty. Do you know why? When we participate in self-improvement to gain false pleasures, we always feel indebted to others. We’re never healthy enough to satisfy everyone. We’re never smart enough to impress everyone. We’re never rich enough to arouse everyone.
The way to live in which you are not indebted to anyone comes with self-transformation. As you transform yourself, you break free of discouraging attitudes – you remember the existence of something within you that is never discouraged, never feels inferior, is never afraid, and never indebted to others.
Student: You would think everyone would choose self-transformation.
Teacher: We live in a distracting world. We are so distracted by the potholes on the road of life, and the psychological detours we are asked to take, that we cannot hear the good news when told that there is an open highway straight ahead for immediate use.
To see far, first be willing to look close. Be mindful of the potholes and psychological detours on the road of life. Genuine aid awaits you right now. Know that self-transformation is not a burden, as fearful thinkers think; it is an incredible opportunity for freedom – so you can do what you really want to do and delight in every day in wonderfully new ways.
“He has chosen the highway; he will advance.”
In what domain of life have you chosen the highway? In what part of your life are you inwardly free from fighting with yourself? Ah, the sweet experience of self-transformation.
Please share your experiences on this matter.
Thank you, and blessings