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What Makes a Charismatic Speaker?
I’ve done some fairly big speaking gigs, and I’ve been told that I am a charismatic speaker. I did one gig in front of 7,000 people in Las Vegas for Century 21’s Annual Convention, and I got a standing ovation. What stirs folks to stand and cheer?
What it takes to move others is exactly what it takes to move yourself. That certain something is found in your nuclear essence. You have what it takes to move others, and you have what it takes to move the world, because you have what it takes to move yourself. It all begins with you!
In order to deliver a message, on stage, that touches the souls of others, you must be willing to speak from your soul. You must be willing to verbally blossom from deep within, like a blossoming meadow flower on a warm, sunny day. Why do so few people trust they can do this?
When I stand in front of an audience, and speak from my soul, I can hear my words dancing on the atoms in the air, and I find myself singing alleluia to what I am hearing in a dozen different ways. What’s happening? I am giving everything of myself to the moment, and I feel fully alive!
So what do I do to get to this state of being? Here is the first thing I do: I detach from my ego-sense of self. I silence the inner critic by dropping my judgmental attitude about everything, When I do this, there is no feeling of doubt; there is no feeling of insecurity; there is no stage fright. Why? Because there is no fear … and you cannot experience doubt or insecurity in the absence of fear.
When I walk on stage to speak with a deep sense of egolessness, I am absolutely free of all concerns of looking good. I feel like I am a guest, like everyone else in the audience. I am a guest who’s listening to my intuitive-self as it expresses through me. Do you know what I love about my intuitive-self? It is infinitely intelligent!
When I allow my intuitive-self to use my voice box to speak, not only does the audience hear what it says for the first time … I do, too. I have no idea what it is going to say until it says it. WOW! This experience places me in the mysterious world of ONENESS.
This world of ONENESS feels mysterious because there is no separation between me and the world, and everyone in the audience that is listening. It is a mysterious world because it is so rarely experienced by so many billions of people on this planet.
Great athletes live in the mysterious world of ONENESS when on top of their game while playing in front of thousands of screaming fans. There is no separation between them, the field upon which they are playing, the other players on the field, and the screaming fans. Many great athletes have spoken of this mysterious experience.
Great opera singers live in this mysterious world of ONENESS when performing at opera houses, and singing to stars in far away galaxies. Luciano Pavarotti described his finest singing experiences this way.
Everyone lives in this world of ONENESS occasionally … for example when totally involved in a game with a small child, there is no separation between you and the child. The child feels it. Do you? Or when playing fetch with your pet … or when making love with someone you love. Great scientists live in this world of ONENESS while in the laboratory, and e.e. cummings said he lived in it while writing (he said that he couldn’t distinguish where the words ended and he began).
The only way we live in the world of ONENESS is to participate in the moment. When on stage, participating in the moment, I develop an incredible inner efficiency that demonstrates in my stage presence. (L’est you think I am perfect … it doesn’t happen all of the time).
You’re intuitive-self understands what I am speaking of. Have you ever got involved in a spontaneous conversation with someone and you realize that you are hearing the words that you are speaking for the first time … and what’s better is that you love what you are hearing? You don’t know what you are going to say until it comes out, and you trust it will be right and perfect … and it is! Have you experienced that?
Spontaneous speaking is very different than a memorized speech or a parroting of what’s been spoken before. The right and perfect words flow through you, and you can feel it. OH, SO YOU ARE A CHARISMATIC SPEAKER! John F Kennedy did it regularly. Can you? YES, YOU CAN.
What you are reading can unlock the door to an incredible life, in all domains of your life. When you live in this world of ONENESS, while in a business conference, the right and perfect choices of action come quite naturally to you. That’s because there is nothing to hamper infinite intelligence from flowing through you. Oh, did I mention that your intuitive self is ONE with infinite intelligence?
When I am speaking on stage, living in the world of ONENESS, and I walk from one end of the stage to the other, I watch myself walking across the stage, like it’s not me. It’s egoless watching.
When the ego gets involved in technique, I am not a charismatic speaker. I may do a good technical job of speaking, but it is not charismatic. Technique is irrelevant when living in the world of ONENESS. In fact, if you take time to consciously practice a technique, you will miss the ecstasy.
Here is the point: ‘Participating in the moment’ dissolves all sense of separateness. This is ultimate reality … ONENESS. ONENESS does not, not, not contribute to our need for ego gratification in any manner. Sweet liberty!
Here’s the secret: When you ‘participate in the moment’ (be it in relationships, business dealings, family matters, money matters, public speaking), you have an incredible personal experience – you disappear into nothingness … and when you disappear into nothingness, everything is available. The right and perfect answers are right there, as quickly as the next breath of air.
In the world of ONENESS you are not present as a separate ‘I AM’. You are egoless. This is why when fully realized beings are asked, “Who are you?” … they respond, “I am that I am.” There is no separation in this statement; no label, no definition. They stand in the exquisite beauty of nothingness, which has everything available to them. Watch out for miracles!
Here is the fact: When participating in the moment, there is complete silence in your mind. Egolessness is virgin peacefulness. The ego, with its large collection of beliefs and decisions, makes all the noise. This deep sense of peacefulness is undistracted by memories of howling NO’s from the past. Some call it ‘being in flow’.
I hope this blog helps you understand a bit better what you truly yearn to learn more about.
Please share a time when you participated in the moment.
Please share a dream of how you want to live in a world of ONENESS in some part of your life.
Please share a thought or idea that has come to you from reading this blog.
Thank you and blessings
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