One day a nervous seeker came to one of my workshops and asked, “Can you help me draw out the best in me?” During a break, he was on his cell phone. He came back into the room and announced that his girlfriend had taken him back and he felt better now, so he was going to leave.
Three months later this same nervous seeker showed up at my workshop, and again asked the same question, “Can you help me draw out the best in me?” That afternoon, at lunch, he was on his personal computer. He came into the workshop after lunch to gleefully announce that he just got the job he applied for, so he felt better now and was going to leave.
One of my assistants, who had attended the prior workshop, asked me, “How long will he repeat this behavior pattern?” I responded, “Until he can see.”
What did this nervous seeker have to see before he could declare liberty from his soap opera misery.
(1.) The first thing he’d have to see is that his usual way of thinking was not going to solve his problems. He needs to develop a new way of seeing things, and he cannot do that while enslaved to mechanical thinking.
(2.) The second thing he’d have to see is that he attracts his problems. The world does not bring his problems upon him – he outmanifests his problematic way of seeing things upon the world (which reflects them back to him).
(3.) The third thing he’d have to see is that he must take responsibility for solving his way of seeing things, that is, if he expects to permanently solve his problematic life style … “If it is to be it is up to me.”
Student: How do you know that he has discouraging self-opinions?
Teacher: Because he continually experiences a discouraging life.
(5.) The final thing he must see is that there is no gain whatsoever to suffer from yourself (all suffering is a consequence of what you think about yourself). YES, all suffering is a consequence of what you think about yourself! WOW that’s a big one.
Picture in your mind a person who has only one possession – a tree that produces bad apples right on the limb. The bad apples are plentiful, and though he hates them, they are all he has … so he eats them. He suffers from a bad mood because of this dilemma.
(1.) He must first see that the tree only produces bad apples.
(3.) He must see that it is time FOR HIM to find a new seed and grow a new tree.
(4.) He must see that he must throw the bad apples away, don’t hoard them in a basket or surely he’ll go back and bite in one.
(5.) He must see that there is no benefit whatsoever to biting into a bad apple.
What do you have to see about yourself so that you may plant new thought-seeds in your mind? (New thought-seeds that will not grow bad apples.)
What do you have to take responsibility for? What recurring problem shows up in your life as a bad apple?
When you know yourself for what you are – a superlatively creative being, who is destined to win at whatever you set your mind to – it is quite easy to take care of yourself. Of course, you realize that if you set your mind to suffering, you will win at creating a life of soap operas. You always win. Please read this paragraph again.
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