I am older than a lot of you. I have accomplished a lot of things that a lot of you dream to do. I am not bragging, I’m stating facts. Notice any tension that may arise within you because of what I’ve just said.
Are you able to listen without listening? Are you able to listen to what I share without listening to your inward self talk of assessments and judgments about what I say?
Can you accept the wisdom that I share without using your mind to add your own explanations? When someone listens, and then adds his own thoughts and opinions, he’s not listening. If you hesitate to empty your mind of its chattering opinion, you’re being stubborn right now.
Years ago, I met W. Clemente Stone (one of America’s self-made billionaires). I had lunch with him and ten other people. He offered me fabulous advice on how to succeed in life. I was so busy listening to my judgment of what he was saying, what he was wearing, and what he was eating, that I was not listening to him at all. How insane is that?
A while back, I decided to become a restaurateur. It just struck my fancy. I liked restaurants. I liked eating in them. Why not open some? I began inquiring into what it takes to succeed in the restaurant business. I made it a point to meet successful restaurant owners and ask them questions. I listened to their answers without listening (I did not judge how they looked, or what mood they were in, or where I might disagree with their theories). I just listened.
When I listened without listening, I dropped my muddle-headedness. Without muddle- headedness I was able to capture the pearls of wisdom they offered. Sometimes their advice didn’t seem logical but I didn’t care because I listening for winning (I was listening for logic).
If I wanted to be clear cut about opening a restaurant, hiring a staff, serving good food, and offering a great environment, then I had to listen for how to get from A to B to C to D without listening for my own of preconceived point of view to intercede.
Success is a mystery, not pure logic. There is an intuitive side to being successful at something new. Otherwise how does someone manage to do what is deemed impossible (like invent the telephone – Alexander Graham Bell; invent a heavier-air-flying machine – Wright brothers; run a mile in under four minutes – Roger Bannister; get a college degree even though she was deaf and blind –Helen Keller).
Listen to this without listening:
- When something went wrong with my first restaurant endeavor, I knew I’d been jolted out of harmony with my aspiration and aim. This above all is true. Forget the logic of what went wrong out there in the world. Accepting that I am out of harmony allowed me to find answers that I’d never have found.
- I let my failures jolt me awake to my chorus of ‘NO’s’ that chant deep in my subconscious. This jolt would destroy the illusion I held that I was inadequate to be successful in the restaurant business. Until I destroyed the illusion of inadequacy (even though there was good logic behind it), I could not progress effectively.
- I had to accept that creating a new version of myself was untasty to my old way of thinking, and yet it became delicious when I accepted my new way of being (a person who could indeed succeed in the restaurant business). YES, I found the enemy, and it was the old me!
I owned several very successful restaurants, years ago. It was a ball. I made a lot of money. I had a lot of fun. I learned to listen without listening. And then I decided to move on, so I sold them.
When you listen without listening – ordinary thinking comes to an end and extraordinary thinking will begin.
Well, there you go. Responses from the conditioned mind will always be wrong when you are learning something new. How can you apply this to YOU?
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