There is a common misunderstanding about the power of NO. It’s commonly believed that family members, friends and even strangers can cause us emotional harm and psychological stress when they shout, “NO!”
You are exposed to 60,000 NO’s from age two (terrible two’s), to age 6. During these innocent and naïve years, you are conditioned to act and think as your community wants you to – the psychological whip is NO, NO, NO! You take the NO’s very personally; its difficult not to; there are consequences if you don’t!
You were born feeling the urge to ROAR about yourself and life. WOW was your word of choice. After 60,000 NO’s, you begin whining WOE; you no longer see the world as a giant playground, and you no longer see yourself as a triumph victor.
The fear of NO was a basic ‘survival reaction’ during the Neanderthal era. During this time, a member of a tribe could not afford to be harshly judged; could not afford to hear “NO!” … he would be cast out of the community; he could never survive alone; he’d be eaten by a saber tooth tiger! Therefore, all members of the tribe were emotionally vulnerable to any kind of NO.
Neanderthal days are gone. There are no saber tooth tigers. Let your pondering of this turn into a powerful realization. Can you see how this ‘survival reaction’ has been destroying your promising future?
Student: Why do I continue to live with this painful error of fearing NO’s.
Teacher: Because you do not take the time to make your mind intelligent to the facts:
1. You are wonderfully made.
2. You are destined to win at whatever you set your mind to.
3. You are worthy of all that is good and beautiful.
The World-Voice will continue to heap piles of NO’s upon you (simply watch the evening news). If you intend to do more with your life than just “go along”, then you must get on with your life. e.e. cummings offers a incredible insight: “To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting.”
Do you intend to soar with the eagles or peck at the ground with the chickens? If you intend to soar, then it’s high time that you learn to ROAR. ROAR-ing is an inside job. You do it in the privacy of your own mind. You don’t do it by trying to impress others.
If a soaring airplane motor begins sputtering, you cannot make it fly better by grounding it and applying a fresh coat of paint.
You soar when you make your mind intelligent to the fact that your time has arrived. It is time to cast aside all accumulated NO’s. Triumph now! Your triumph over NO is half won by rising above the ‘survival reaction’ of 50,000 years ago. It is time to quicken your consciousness to the truth of your unlimited nature! The little Orange book on ‘how to ROAR’ will be available soon!
You can stop ruinous NO’s from stopping you from experiencing your hidden talents and unrealized potential. You can start a new and rich life far above the madness of howling NO’s.
I will continue with this conversation on future blogs; please offer comments to help others understand the knowledge you have on this topic.