“What’s it take to be successful and Happy today?”
I have a lot of folks ask me this question. “What’s it take to…?” (you fill in the blank).
Every time you inquire in a sincere way, wanting to explore your own nature – you reclaim a part of your life! Ignorance of self (your true nature) places you under negative influences.
How many times have I personally tried to lay blame on the world ‘out there’ because I simply refused to look directly at the problem? Any inward voice insisting that you are a victim – is a false voice! Please take a moment to read and reflect on this statement once again.
I know that the question “what’s it take to be successful and happy?” can be approached from many angles, but let’s go directly at it:
The first thing you must do is ACCEPT past defeats as opportunities for future victories. Cheer up – the moment will come when you will enthusiastically see that your miss-takes offer wonderful life-lessons. Remember the prodigal son; by acknowledging defeat he found his way home!
The second thing you must do is REFUSE to live in fear and desperation. YES, refuse! You are a supreme being with superlatively creative skills. You need not painfully endure anything – all misfortunes have golden nuggets hidden deep in them, but you will not find the nugget if you are looking at your life from a ‘poor me’ attitude!
You must turn deep within and ask to see things differently, if you are to see the opportunities that your miss-takes, disappointments and misfortunes offer. Might I remind you that a mistake is simply a ‘miss-take’ with a life-lesson in it. You took a swing and missed. If you study your miss-take with an eye for learning what you did wrong – the answer you seek will come. Now you are able to do a re-take of that miss-take (refining your action) and succeed. That is when you pick up the megaphone (like the Hollywood director) and sing out: “That’s a take!”
Begin now – accepting that you are a superlatively creative being. No longer accept nervousness as a necessary condition, no matter what your world looks like. Stop treating yourself so badly by wailing our ‘woe is me’. What’s the alternative? Poise and calm.
You will be wonderfully startled at what you attract when you come from a poised and calm state of mind. This is precisely when ‘providence moves to … all sorts of things occur (behind your back) to help you’. This is my rephrase of Wolfgang Goethe’s advice.
Life wants to grant you your rights as a supreme being with superlatively creative skills. Are you willing to accept them? How are you to know yourself for what you really are capable of achieving if you race around screaming for your rights (by insisting that you are entitled, but unwilling to exchange anxiety for peace)? Please reread the prior sentence slowly. There is a lot there!
Okay, so now – please help out your fellow blog community members:
- Share how have you turned a past defeat into a marvelous opportunity for future victory:
(John: I tried to fix my garage door opener, and it crashed to the ground in a thousand pieces …. I called a handyman to replace it, and he has become my
friend. I have a new hobby that I love because of him – fly-fishing)
- What golden nugget did you find in a past defeat?
(Kim: I lost my ‘condo-purchasing funds’ in the stock market. I then started a new business with what little money I had left so that I could recoup some of the money. I have regained all of the lost funds and made even more by selling custom made business cards, stationary and envelopes for people – over 5,000 customers in 8 months. I never would have pursued this dream if I’d not been pushed to the wall with my money loss.
- How have you proven to yourself that you are a superlatively creative being?
(Joanne: I always wanted to take piano lessons. I never had time. I got a part-time job in a music store because the owner said I could practice on the floor model piano in off hours. I used the money I made in the store to buy the floor model at a great discount from the owner, and now I have begun my own band).
Consider all feelings of desperation as pushy guests – ask them to leave immediately by reminding yourself that there is a poised and confident part of you waiting with answers, if you allow it to speak to you.
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