Have you noticed, yet, that struggle and discomfort are your life-long companions? You will never be without them but you can dramatically diminish their affect on your experience of life. Have you also noticed, that on the other side of struggle (when you look at life from a growth-choice attitude) comes a deep sense of self-worth? Why? Because you find yourself winning at life in spite of what is happening to you.
It was a great discovery when I realized that the quality of my life is a consequence of my internal environment, not my external environment. It was equally as great a discovery to realize that my internal environment (ATTITUDE and MOOD) are a result of my internal self-talk. My attitude and mood are not a consequence of what happens to me! Wow, absorb that opinion and the world looks very different (much better!).
Now, here is the BIG ONE: I can examine what I am thinking while in the midst of thinking it. No other creature in the animal kingdom can do that. When I refer to me, I am referring to you, too. You and I can think about what we are thinking about. That’s huge. This unique ability to examine our thoughts while thinking those thoughts enables us to change our internal self-talk if it is not giving us an internal environment of joy and wonder.
Nothing makes us feel our personal power like taking control of our inward self-talk, and turning it around when it has my mood spiraling down. This power to control our self-talk allows us to control how we feel about what is happening to us. It’s the decisions we make about the events in our life that determine whether we learn from those events or burn from those events. This last statement is a great insight; please take a moment to read it again.
The fact that you can think about what you are thinking about (the fact that you can examine your thoughts while you are having them), enables you to train your mind to think differently if you do not like how you are currently feeling.
When I would get frustrated in traffic jams, I thought I had no other choice but to think ‘poor me’ in such situations. One day, while thinking ‘poor me’ – I decided to examine that thought and see what it was giving me. Other than giving me a dull headache, I realized it was accomplishing nothing. In fact – it was adding melodramatic suffering to the traffic jam experience (which only worsened the experience).
It is a great habit to examine your inward self-talk three or four times a day, and ask yourself: ‘what kind of mood are these thoughts giving me’? Can you afford to allow renegade inward self-talk to determine your moods for you?
If you persevere in studying your inward self-talk, you probably won’t like what you often hear, but the discoveries you make create space for you to create a much more harmonious internal environment. Your internal emotional environment has everything to do with your growth as a joyful, conscious being.
Can you think of a time when a change in your inward self-talk turned your mood around? How do you handle your inward self-talk when it is leading you down a dark alley? Do you have a favorite statement you make to yourself that puts your self-talk back on track? I love to remind myself that ‘I am wonderfully made and worthy of all that is good and beautiful.’