It was a few years back that it came to me that my most important relationship in the whole wide world was with MYSELF. If my relationship with myself is not working, my relationship with the world and the people in the world will not work, no matter how hard I try.
So, what did it take to establish a fabulous relationship with myself; a relationship that has me very happy with the very intimate person that I wake up to every morning – ‘ME’! If I am NOT happy with me – my day is surely going to prove to be testy. Can you agree with that?
Here are four fabulous rules to follow to create a fabulous relationship with yourself:
Rule # 1: Absolutely Accept Yourself just as you are. Perhaps there are changes you may want to make, but if you resist who you have created yourself to be, you give power to the parts of your personality that you want to improve. That which you resist shall most definitely persist. Why? Because you are pushing at it, and what you push always pushes back!
Rule # 2: Now that you have accepted yourself as you are, hold yourself responsible for making necessary changes. Look ahead and KNOW how you want to be, and set up projects in your life to support the NEW YOU that you are creating. If you are going to be healthier – join the local health club, go jogging, promise to eat vegetables every day – chunk your projects down into manageable parts so that you can accomplish them.
Rule#3: Create a ‘Learning Center’ in your mind where you can go and look at how you are doing. When you find yourself falling back, take the time to notice the mistakes, and ask yourself what you can do to refine your action so you can improve your plan to move toward your aspiration. If you joined the local health club but are not going there – then write a schedule and promise yourself to keep the schedule and reward yourself when you do. “I will go every Mon, Wed & Fri after work for one hour. When I succeed, I will treat myself to a great movie in town.” Keep your promise to yourself.
Rule # 4: Pay attention to how you speak to yourself. Your inward self-talk is a very important part of your growth and development. If your self-talk is scolding, it will discourage you. You will find that you keep falling back to where you were when your self-talk is discouraging. Memorize supportive inward self-talk and refer to it often. My favorite is this: “I am marvelously made and destined to win at whatever I set my mind to.” I remind myself of this often, and especially when I am procrastinating or coming up with excuses to quit my project.
I hope these Four Rules help you with creating a version of you that you love to be with. When you love to be with ‘YOU’, you love to be with others in the world; you love life. What a gift you give yourself and everyone around you. You can do.
You are marvelously made, rob