I met Rob two years ago through a business acquaintance who told me; “You have to meet this guy Rob, he is a high energy business man and spiritual-guy type.” I was immediately skeptical. “Spiritual guy” hmmm… Not my type. I’m what you might call a hardened New Englander. An old Yankee who thinks spiritual thinking belongs on the ‘Left’ Coast. One who values self reliance, pragmatism and intellect. I thought ‘Spiritual’ was anathema to my East Coast upbringing. Well, after meeting Rob, I was surprised to see that we clicked. I found Rob’s philosophy to not only be pragmatic but in essence in line with my values. When Rob told me; “If it aint practical, it aint spiritual” I knew I was awakening to a new conversation. Rob has taught me a lot and has given me a platform to express what I have learned. I’m still a work in progress — but trust me; I’ve come a long way.
WHY DO PEOPLE SINK THEIR OWN SHIPS?
I have a friend (let’s call him Jim), who is always complaining. Jim’s favorite statement is, “I still don’t know what to do, can you help me?” He says this about almost every project that he gets involved in at work.
My advice to Jim is always the same: “try to see that it is you that is your biggest deterrent to succeeding.” Jim thinks he has a flighty mind, and he does. WHY? Because he thinks he does. Why does Jim do that to himself?
He will never come up with any valuable ideas at work as long as he is faithful to his flighty mind theory. For heavens sake, if you are going to be faithful to something, Jim, make it something that gives you confidence. His confidence is so fragile, that it is shaken with one frown from anyone. Again, I ask Why does Jim do that to himself?
You cannot win at the game of life by pouncing on yourself every time you make a mistake. Lighten up. Your mind isn’t supposed to be a jungle, it should be a flowery meadow (or something like that).