One of the biggest fears of letting go of old habit patterns is that we will not be ourselves any more. The fear of extinction prevents us from seeing that the Habitual-Self must fade away in order to make room for a higher version of oneself.
When it comes to creating a ‘brand new you’, your work is to notice your fear of not existing at all if you let go of too much of the old you. One way to do this is to notice how family, friends, and neighbors will try to stop you if you begin changing too much, and that’s because they fear they won’t know how to relate to you.
Here is what these people are doing: in order to cling to the old you so they feel comfortable, they make disgruntling remarks and call you phony when you begin behaving in dramatically new ways. They have no conscience in making you feel foolish if they feel uncomfortable with your new self-creation. They are like demanding musicians insisting that you dance to the music they play for you.
Take a look at all the people and things you have around you that support your staying the same, even if the current version of you is not working for you; then ask yourself, “Am I willing to change in spite of my resisting surroundings?” When the answer is a resounding ‘YES,” you have taken a giant step forward toward creating a New You!